There may be traits that make a guy the perfect one, but there are a few turn offs that all girls hate. Read the 10 biggest dating turn offs for women. By Erica Patterson

Many guys have been here and experienced it.

The date’s going perfectly, but all of a sudden something goes wrong and she’s gone cold.

Ever been there? Well, here are a few of the biggest turn offs for girls that may have pulled the trigger.

Pinpointing the turn offs for women is not easy.

After all, every girl is different and made of sugar and spice, right?

And which guy on earth actually knows all the ingredients of that perfect sugar and spice blend?!

The biggest turn offs for women

On a serious note though, there are a few girl turn offs that can pull the plug on a perfectly great date.

Turning on a girl isn’t easy, and we’re not just talking about tweaking any body parts here.

Getting a girl to like you is difficult business. It’s like playing a role playing game, where each move is unique and confusing.

But whether it’s making hay in the rain or just wanting to know how to impress women, the biggest turn offs for women are all the same.

Now, some women like big hands and some like small things. I can’t tell you every girl’s personal preference, so I’ll just tell you what you need to know to make sure you never find yourself in the middle of a girl’s turn off zone!

#1 Insecure personalities

One of the biggest turn offs for women is a guy who’s insecure about himself. If you’re not confident about yourself or are feeling nervous, trust me, it shows. This is one of the biggest reasons why guys get spurned on a date.

Are you happy being who you are? Do you think you make for great company? If you aren’t happy being who you are, what are the odds that the girl you’re with would like your company? Some guys have a great positive aura around themselves and some guys are just plain nervous and scared. If you’re an insecure guy, it’s time to change your behavior. Or lose the girl! [Read: How to be a better man]

#2 Oversensitive guys

All our lives, we’ve been taught to be nice and chivalrous. We know we have to help the damsel in distress, step aside in an elevator, hold the door open for women, and make sure she’s all happy and gay. [Read: How to be chivalrous]

To sum it up, we’ve all been taught to think like a girl and experience what they feel. But somewhere along the line, some guys take the whole game of being chivalrous and experiencing the womanliness inside a man to a whole new level. Drum roll… welcome… the sensitive guy. [Read: How to think like a girl and impress her]

Sensitive guys are really nice guys who’ve listened to their mama and have learnt their manners. They’re very much in touch with the feminine side inside them, but they’ve been so rigorously trained on connecting with their feminine side that they’ve crossed the line and have gone way overboard. Watching a mushy movie with a guy and crying on his manly shoulder is a great way for a girl to spend Sunday afternoon, but sharing tissues to wipe each other’s tears? Nope, that’s just not right. Same goes with guys who ask if a girl’s having a nice time a hundred times on a date.

#3 Being cocky or pompous

Some guys think they have it all. And at some point, all the attention and the smothering from their parents and buddies make them assume they own the world. They make idiotic statements and love talking about their own glorious deeds or misdeeds. Do you incessantly talk about how well you played a game or how many cars you own?

Well, say what you want, you’re just going to be a cocky pompous prick. Even gold diggers may get bored of you in no time. Learn some humility and you could still get back in a girl’s good books.

#4 The foot in the mouth

Now this isn’t a bad thing, but we’ve all experienced it. Here are a few instances. You’re kissing a girl, and all of a sudden, you stop and tell her you need to pee. You touch a girl on a date and excitedly tell her how happy you are to touch her. You’re having an affair with a girl, and you ask her if she feels weird about kissing someone other than her boyfriend.

You get the drift, don’t you? This is not always your fault, but nevertheless, it’s still a huge turn off for women. [Read: How to touch a girl on a date the right way]

#5 Boring guys

Gosh, another big one on the list. Have you ever met a guy who was just too boring? Now I don’t mean nerdy or geeky, those types can be great guys and even better boyfriend materials. I’m talking about boring guys whose company can kill you in no time.

All girls and guys have experienced this at some point in their lives. We’ve all had to sit next to a guy, and his conversations were so boring that you would rather jump off a cliff. To avoid being a guy in this cliché, work your conversation around what your date wants to talk about. If you see her looking around while you’re talking, it’s time to change the conversation. If you see her eyes light up and her gestures getting animated, you’ve hit the conversation jackpot, baby! [Read: What to talk about on a date]

#6 Dumb guys

Are you a dumb guy? Yeah, of course, you aren’t. But many guys are really dumb without realizing it. Now I’m not talking about being an idiot or the village simpleton. I’m talking about guys who speak their minds on a date, without thinking about how their date would feel. If she’s looking around while you’re talking, and you realize you need to change the topic of conversation, do it discreetly. Don’t ever say, “oh, you’re getting bored, aren’t you? You can tell me, I won’t mind…”

Unless you want your date to claw her nails into the leather of her seat or crawl her toes in awkward cringing desperation, avoid being a dumb guy.

#7 Fidgety and touchy guys

Movies always portray an exaggerated version of the touchy feely guy. You don’t need to have sensitive nipples to be a touchy feely guy in real life. The worst part of being a touchy and fidgety guy is that most guys don’t know they’re that guy!

Let me give you a few examples here. Do you play with your hair, your pen, or start tapping your foot or drumming the table now and then while bobbing your head like a giraffe when you’re bored? Do you find yourself touching your chest a lot after working out for a few days? Bingo! You’re that fidgety and touchy guy. Don’t ever be touchy feely when you’re on a date, it can be annoying and at times, even creepy!

#8 Narcissists

Now we have the mirror cracking good looking boy. Any guy who spends more time in front of the mirror than his own girlfriend is a huge turn off. But we’re not stopping there. If you’re having dinner with your date, and the waiter accidently spills a bit of juice on your silk shirt, wipe it away like a man. Don’t whine about how your silk shirt is ruined and behave like a drama queen. [Read: How to be a great date]

In the world of dating, a narcissistic guy is one who’s overly bothered about his own things like his cell phone, watch, or just about anything else that belongs to him. Boy, you’re with a woman. Let her be the cynosure of your eyes!

#9 A unmannerly prick

Manner, manners. Girls like a guy who knows his manners. Now every guy should know his manners *though he should never push it and become the sensitive guy*. But that’s not it at all. There’s something even bigger.

You should be man enough to apologize or accept that you’re wrong. No guy’s a bigger sore loser or a turn off than a guy who just can’t accept his fault, but would rather throw tantrums and make a fuss and pout like a four year old. Learn to man up and remember, accepting that you’ve made a mistake is not a sign of weakness.

[Read: The right time for a guy to call after the first date]

#10 The overenthusiastic fan

Are you into video games? Sports? Or perhaps, you like your well toned muscles that could put Brad Pitt in Troy to shame. Stop talking about it for a minute. It may be football fever or anything else. But going on about it when you’re on a date is a huge turn off, unless she’s very much into the same activity. And if she doesn’t like your favorite team or doesn’t share your interest, stop trying to rouse her interest by going on talking about it. It’s just boring!

[Read: How to make out with a girl on a date]

All said and done, always remember these ten dating turn offs for women. There may be many more unique turn offs too, but it’s to each her own. Just remember these ten biggest turn offs for women, and you’d definitely stay in her good books.

Do girls like shy guys or confident guys? Find out what girls want in a shy guy and what you can do to be the perfect guy for the girl you like. By Erica Patterson

Shy guys are loveable.

And almost all girls feel safe, and dare I say it, even confident around them.

Shy guys are every girl’s dream conversationalist.

They hardly talk, and they’re really good at just listening to the girl.

Girls like that.

We definitely love a cute shy guy who can just watch us, smile to himself and listen to everything we have to say.

[Read: How to make a girl like you without asking her out]

Do girls like shy guys?

Girls definitely like a shy guy.

But almost always, girls fall for a shy guy when they’re still in school or college, and definitely not in a workplace.

Girls get crushes on cute shy guys because they’re so mysterious and different from all the other guys who try to behave like bold smooth talkers.

But as soon as a great guy starts to pursue a girl, she forgets about the shy guy because, well, he’s just not doing anything to reciprocate.

If you’re a shy guy, learn to use the opportunity of first impressions.

Girls are intrigued by a shy guy. And even the smallest gesture by a shy guy can make a huge difference to a girl, especially if she likes him already. [Read: What do girls look for in a guy to fall for him?]

When are shy guys better than confident guys?

# Shy guys make better friends. They’re good listeners and they’re very considerate. But you obviously don’t want to be her friend, so this isn’t a good sign. If you want to date a girl, you need to let her know that!

# Shy guys make better sex buddies. Girls feel powerful around shy guys. Get drunk with a girl and let her have her way with you and she’ll definitely like it. And if you’re just looking for a fling thing, you’d definitely like it too! [Read: How to get a sex buddy]

# Girls definitely like a guy who’s shy at first but opens up after a few conversations. They definitely don’t like a guy who’s shy in the first conversation and shy after that too. Now almost all the time, even the shyest of guys open up after a couple of conversations, so you don’t have to worry there.

What do girls want in a great guy?

Now shy guys have a lot of good sides to them. They’re more sensitive and caring and girls like their company. But to fall for a guy, there are three things that a girl needs in a boyfriend material. [Read: 10 traits of a good boyfriend]

#1 A guy who can protect her

#2 A guy she can depend on

#3 A guy who can pursue her

Now these three things that every girl needs may seem simple, but this is where almost every shy guy fails. Do you realistically think you have the bold presence of a guy who can protect the girl from any trouble when she’s with you? Do you think she can depend on you to sort any issue out for her? And if you’re so shy that you can’t even have a conversation with her, can you really woo her and impress her by pursuing her when she’s playing hard to get?

Well, shy guys fail miserably in all three requirements. And that’s where a perfect shy guy who is every girl’s dream loses a great girl and ends up becoming her friend instead of her boyfriend.

The bad side of a shy guy that’ll put off a girl

Girls have no problems with a shy guy. But these bad traits of a shy guy can put off anyone, not just a girl you like. [Read: 10 biggest dating turn offs for girls]

#1 The problem with shy guys is that they have no balls. They can’t make a stand for anything. They’d rather stand in the sidelines than take center stage.

#2 Shy guys are very accommodating and give in to any problem just to avoid any kind of conflict. Even if anyone insults them, they’d pretend like they’re not affected by it when in reality they’d be furious inside their shy heads.

#3 Shy guys would rather give up than fight. And they think they’re peace loving when they’re just too chicken hearted in reality.

#4 They have to be peeled back, layer by layer. It takes too much time for a girl to get to know a shy guy. When great girls can get any guy they want, would a girl really be interested in counseling you and trying to make you a better man when they can be pampered and treated like a queen by any bold guy they want?

#5 Shy guys don’t have confidence around other people, especially other guys. If another guy tried to flirt with your girlfriend, would you have the courage to make a stand and put the other guy in place? If you can’t even stand up for yourself, how can you stand up for the girl in your arms?

How to turn your shyness into an advantage

Your shyness could create a lot of difficulties for you, especially when it comes to dating a great girl. But here are a few immediate tips you could use to tilt the shyness to your advantage. [Read: How to get a girl's attention wherever you are]

#1 Become a quiet guy. Turn your shyness into confidence. Don’t let anyone think you’re shy. Instead make it appear like you’re just a quiet guy who likes his own space.

#2 Make it appear like you’re bold. Talk less, but don’t let anyone know your heart’s beating like a hummingbird inside. Avoid being nervous and jittery, instead reply in short sentences that make you appear confident.

#3 Brave up and talk to her. This is inevitable. You need to man up and talk to her at least once. Get introduced through a friend if you have to. After that, woo her through texts and messages. Pursue the girl silently by avoiding long conversations face to face at the beginning and focus all your attention on your texts and gifts. [Read: What to say to a girl you like]

#4 Walk with a purpose. Shy guys can actually come off as extremely confident as long as they move purposefully and appear composed. Walk tall, and don’t bother trying to get anyone’s attention but that one girl who matters.

#5 Don’t tell the girl that you’re a shy guy. Telling a girl that you’re shy can work against your favor. She’ll immediately get confident and behave aloof. By pretending to be a quiet guy, you can appear mysterious and more appealing to any girl.

The easy and better way out – Don’t be the shy guy

It’s not easy being a shy guy. I was a shy girl once too and I know how hard it can be to change. But the only way to have better opportunities in life is by trying hard to eliminate that shy side of yours.

All of us have been shy guys and shy girls at some point of time. Some lose that trait in their childhood while others lose it in their teens. The earlier you realize the need to change, the faster you can become a better man who can feel confident in his own shoes. [Read: How to be a better man by using a role model]

Here are five steps that can help you lose the shy guy tag with a bit of effort.

#1 Open up to people. Make an effort to open up early to people. What’s the point in waiting for a few meetings to be friendly? Shy guys are cute friends, and not cute boyfriends. A shy guy may seem cute in his teens, but anything beyond that and you’d end up being isolated by everyone.

#3 Get introduced to girls. Talk to girls even if you’re not interested in dating them. Sometimes, you need a few warm up lessons by talking to girls you’re not interested in to feel more confident about your own abilities and prepare yourself for the girl you’re going to fall in love with. [Read: How shy guys can get over their hover hands]

#3 Don’t be afraid of being judged. Make new friends. Most shy guys avoid opening up to people because they assume they have nothing important to add. Or they stay quiet because they assume they’ll appear dumb if they speak too much. Don’t be afraid to reveal who you really are. You may be shy, but you’re still a great guy who can share so much with his friends and the world.

#4 Girls are just like you. Only they have lady parts. Remember that girls are a part of the human species too. They like guys just as much as you like girls. They want to make a good impression on you just as much as you want to make an impression on them. Some girls may have more confidence, but that doesn’t mean you won’t be more confident with a few tries.

#5 Make a few mistakes and learn from it. The dumbest shy guys are the ones who know they’re shy and yet don’t do anything to open up. They’re afraid of failure and rejection and end up hiding in their own little world and bitch about how unfair the world is to them. Don’t be that guy. It’s alright to fall a few times before you start walking. It’s alright to get rejected a few times before you meet the perfect girl too!

[Read: How to ask a girl out when you're a shy guy]

So do girls like shy guys? Of course, they do, just as long as the guy can be a confident shy guy. But if you can’t be that guy, just follow these tips and you’ll definitely turn over a new leaf and get any girl you like with a little effort.

Are good looking girls mean to some guys? Or are they actually nicer than other girls? Here’s a good looking girl’s answer to that big question. By a good looking Anonymous Kitty

There are a lot of misconceptions about good looking girls out there.

Now they’re not all wrong.

But more often than not, they are more of a stereotype than anything else.

Have you ever heard the line that good looking girls are mean and arrogant?

Now is that all true?

I definitely don’t think so.

I’m a girl who could be considered good looking, and I’d like to share my thoughts with others.

But please don’t think me conceited.

I’m only trying to strike a conversation.

[Read: How to avoid the friend zone and make a girl desire you]

The mean good looking girls

There are a lot of mean girls out there, and perhaps a few good looking mean girls too.

But that doesn’t mean all good looking girls are mean.

Here are a few reasons why some good looking girls are mean.

#1 They’re conceited. It’s true, a few good looking girls are completely full of themselves.

They think they’re a gift to mankind or something, and believe they need to be treated better than everyone else. They’re the annoying kind of good looking girls, and definitely, the shallow ones too.

#2 They like the attention. Almost all good looking girls know they get attention all the time. They know they’re hot stuff and they intend to use their looks at every possible instance to get something favorable.

It may be to date someone rich and have a sugar daddy, or it may be something to do with getting a better job. The attention works for them and they fully use it to their advantage. [Read: 12 tips to get a girl's attention wherever you are]

#3 They’re intentionally mean. Some good looking girls are just terribly mean. I’ve seen many girls bat their eyelids at a guy and make him approach them only to spurn him away! It’s terrible and annoying, and these are the kind of girls that give good looking girls a bad name.

But this is more like the exception than the rule. All good looking girls are not heartless skanks whose only sole means of pleasure is chucking a wrecking ball at a guy’s heart.

Good looking girls are not intentionally mean

For a long time, I’ve seen just how misunderstood good looking girls are. No matter what a good looking girl does, it’s always bad. There’s just no way out. Here are a few reasons why good looking girls are assumed to be mean.

#1 Guys always exaggerate a good looking girl’s rejection to feel better about themselves. [Read: Ways to reject a guy nicely without hurting him]

#2 Too many guys hit on good looking girls all the time, and they really don’t have the time to play nice to all the guys. What would you do if girls threw themselves at you all the time? You obviously can’t play nice to every girl you meet, especially if you know that you’re never going to be interested in that person.

#3 Guys are always mean to good looking girls. They expect a good looking girl to be snappy, so the guys go all out with their rude remarks. Additionally, a few guys get incredibly rude when they’re rejected. So a great looking girl’s always got to be on guard, or she’ll end up getting insulted by guys all the time.

#4 Cheesy pick up lines. How do you like your eggs in the morning… fried or fertilized? Really? How can a girl not get annoyed when she hears something like that? Most guys always use a pick up line when they strike up a conversation with a good looking girl like a pick up line makes them look cooler. But when a girl’s out with her friends, could it be possible that she’s just trying to have a nice time, not get her eggs picked?! [Read: 10 types of creepy guys that girls always avoid]

People love to see a good looking girl punished

Sometimes, petty jealously can make people really mean. When a good looking girl gets a great guy, everyone else just hopes for her to get dumped or cheated on.

And almost always, everyone wants the good looking girl to date a guy who would treat her like crap just so she can feel their pain. This is especially true for guys who get rejected often. But really, why? What have good looking girls ever done to you? Well, yes, maybe some girl rejected you. But why stereotype all good looking girls into evil witches? [Read: Signs a girl is just using you]

Guys want a girl who’s beautiful but doesn’t know it

Isn’t that unfair? I’ve had a few guys tell me this line with a mean grin, to spite me or be frank, I really can’t tell.

But guys, you want the best girl in the world when clearly, you’re not the best guy in the world yet. You want a confused girl who’s insecure and timid, one who isn’t aware of her own beauty. Why is that? So you can feel good about yourself?

Isn’t that mean? You want the best of something without giving your best back to her. And at the same time, when a good looking girl wants a great guy, everyone thinks the girl’s a bitch, or that she’s shallow. It’s just so unfair.

Who are the real mean girls?

The real mean girls are the ones who constantly want attention or are the ones who think they’re really good looking when they really aren’t. They act snotty and constantly want attention because somewhere deep down, they’re all insecure because they’re not sure if they’re pretty.

And almost always, a good looking girl’s not so good looking friend is usually the mean one. She tries to use her good looking friend’s attractiveness to get attention and treat guys badly because she wants to get even with all the guys who didn’t give her attention. I may sound rude and full of myself, but it’s true. People get mean when they want to inflict pain on someone else for their own shortcomings.

I know a lot of models and good looking guys and girls, and I can assure you, they are the nicest and sweetest people in the world. Just don’t try hitting on them or taking them to bed at hello. Get to know them as a friend first. You’ll see how nice good looking people really are. They’re just like every other nice person in the world. [Read: 15 tips to be nice and loved by all]

Good looking girls are human too

Contrary to popular belief, good looking girls are just like everyone else. They have a heart that hurts and wants true love too. Here are a few things about good looking girls that many guys don’t give a thought about.

#1 They want to be appreciated too. It’s true, they love romance and little skips of joy like every other girl out there. But please, be a great guy who’s sweet and charming. [Read: Easy ways to be charming around a girl]

#2 They’re more than skin deep. Good looking girls want to be liked for who they are beyond their appearance. When a guy just stares at her without listening to her words, it’s insulting.

#3 They don’t like being constantly picked up. Good looking girls don’t want to be hit on or stared at all the time. They’re not animals at a zoo. Why do guys think good looking girls are just meant to be picked up?

#4 Screw the prejudice. Really, good looking girls aren’t always mean. They know their worth, and they appreciate a guy who knows to behave around them and treat them as a person. And they’re completely human and have feelings just like all other girls. [Read: 10 biggest dating turn offs for girls]

Most good looking girls are nicer than other girls

Almost all the time, most good looking girls are nicer than average looking girls. Good looking girls need to try harder to prove that they’re not stuck up or full of themselves.

An average looking girl sometimes throws a hissy fit just to feel pampered. When she does that, everyone else thinks she’s being cute. But when a good looking girl does the same thing, she’s being bitchy. When a great looking girl asks a guy for a favor like getting dropped home, I see eyes rolling and hear gasps of exasperation. Everyone thinks she’s taking advantage of a guy. But when any other girl does that, they think she’s being a good friend. Isn’t that unfair?

And on another note, good looking girls always need to work harder to achieve anything. Whatever we achieve in life, people think we got it off easy. Yes, it’s true, guys are nicer to good looking girls. But not all of them. Almost all guys just think the world’s spinning in our favor because we’re good looking girls. And that’s just not true.

Debunking the stereotype

Really, good looking girls have a heart too. Just for once, try to see the world through our eyes. How would you feel if every guy you get introduced to looks at your breasts while speaking to you and stares at your ass when you walk away? Would you feel like a person or an object? [Read: Kinds of men who stare at women]

Some girls are mean and annoying, true, but as a guy, you can’t just round up all the good looking girls and brand them as annoying and mean. [Read: Reasons behind why guys like breasts like crazy]

The next time you meet a good looking girl, treat her as a person. Have a stimulating intellectual conversation and let her know that you’re seeing her as more than just someone to sleep with. And when you do that, you may just realize that a good looking girl isn’t just skin deep. And she’ll really appreciate you for making her feel like a person too.

[Read: How to flirt with a girl the friendly way]

So are good looking girls really mean? I’ve said my part, but the truth is still out there for you to find out.

Want to turn your girl on and arouse her like never before? Understand what women want in bed with these tips and you’ll be able to do that and more! By Jana Snow

Sex is all in the mind, for men and for women.

It may be an activity where all the action is felt down below.

But unless your mind doesn’t enjoy it, you’ll end up bored.

So when it comes to arousing a woman and making her love the things you do in bed, you need to make her feel good about the things you do to her in her head.

[Read: 20 things that turn a girl on sexually and otherwise when she sees a guy]

What women want in bed

When you’re in a new relationship, getting naked in front of each other is all it takes to get the bodies warm and ready for action.

But if you want to have wild, passionate sex with a girl and make her love the things you do to her in bed, you need to do more than just drop your shorts.

You need to keep her needs in mind.

And you need to give equal importance to all aspects of lovemaking.

10 things you can do to make her love it

If you’re wondering what women want in bed, don’t think further. Just keep these 10 things you should do in mind, and you’ll definitely make the special lady feel more loved and sexy, and ensure that she has a great time too. [Read: How to make out with a girl after a date and make her love it]

#1 Take your time. This is something most men don’t give a thought about. More foreplay. Guys know the rules, but they just can’t help it. All you want to do is stick the shaft and drive. But think about it, by delaying the penetration and enjoying the foreplay, she’d feel more wet and will enjoy sex a lot more. Isn’t that worth the effort?

And here’s another thing to remember. By extending foreplay, you’re giving your mind and your little guy more time to prepare for sex. And by spending more time on foreplay, you’ll reduce your chances of losing an erection midway. [Read: 20 ways to keep an erection up and hard for a long time]

#2 Emotional connection. To enjoy sex better, girls need to feel connected to the guy emotionally. Well, this doesn’t make one night stands less sexy. But in a relationship where you’ve had sex a few times, you always need to focus on making her feel loved and emotionally connected to you. It’ll make her enjoy the night a lot more. [Read: How to hook up with a girl on a one night stand]

Speak to her lovingly, kiss her all over her face and ears, and whisper sweet nothings into her ear as you prepare to make love. Get this right, and she’ll definitely feel more connected to you and even fall more in love with you.

#3 Physical connection. When you have sex, the two bodies unite and become one. When you’re on top of the girl, make sure both of you are positioned well and feel comfortable. Neither of you can enjoy sex if your bodies don’t feel comfortable against each other.

Breathe together and take in your breath just as she takes in hers. When your bodies unite and synchronize with each other perfectly, breathing and all, she’ll feel more connected to you and may even think she’s found the perfect match for her body.

#4 Variety and games. Lovemaking is passionate. But too much of a good thing can bore anyone. So try to mix in the passionate sex with games and fun. Girls love having a nice time in bed, and it doesn’t always have to be about sex. Cuddle her, tease her, play with her clothes and just have fun with each other for a while before deciding to jump each other’s bones. [Read: 10 sex games your girlfriend will love and enjoy]

#5 Set the mood right. If you want to have awesome sex, you need to set the mood right. You can use perfumed body oils and give her a massage for half an hour while focusing on her love spots, so you can make her feel horny and relaxed, and extend foreplay at the same time.

You can even use porn if you’re not in the mood for something elaborate. Or both of you can go clubbing on a Saturday night and grind against each other in the club until you make her wet and want to take you right there.

While you can’t create perfect sexual moods all the time, put in an effort to build the sexual tension up, and she’ll definitely orgasm a lot better. [Read: How to make a girl horny just by sitting next to her]

#6 Self esteem. For a woman, self esteem is one of the most important things to feel sexy about herself when she’s in bed with a man. When you’re making love with your girl, make her feel loved and comfortable, and compliment her body or any other specific regions that you find sexy.

Women love a man who boosts their ego in bed. Overlook her awkward spots and don’t stop complimenting her body. And she’ll bring out the sexy minx inside of her who’ll feel confident and give you a better time in bed.

#7 Make her mind go wild. Girls have an active imagination too. And if you can stimulate her mind into thinking dirty and naughty, she’ll definitely get wilder in bed. Recreate fantasies that she’ll enjoy, talk to her about the first time both of you saw each other naked, or remind her about the time both of you did something wild outside the house. And when you learn which fantasies turn her on more than the others, use those fantasies while having sex with her. [Read: How to fantasize and talk dirty in bed]

#8 Give all of her your attention. For guys, there are just two parts of a girl’s body that occupies their attention in bed. But if you really want your woman to have a wild time in bed, don’t isolate yourself to just a place or two on her body.

Focus on all of her, kiss her hands, lick her navel, kiss her toes, the back of her neck and everywhere else. If she moans or gasps, you know you’re doing the right thing.

#9 Satisfy her. Can you really enjoy sex if you don’t finish yourself off? Of course, you can’t. And for girls, it works the same way too. Don’t get carried away while having sex and focus only on your own needs. Take it slow and warm her up, and don’t ejaculate until your woman has orgasmed first. Or if you’d like, try to orgasm together. But don’t end it before she’s had an orgasm. [Read: 10 steps to get any girl to have sex with you]

Even as you have sex, focus on her pleasure and work your way to make her orgasm. By doing that, you’ll feel more proud of accomplishing a good finish and keeping her satisfied.

#10 Sex has to end with love. Just like foreplay, afterplay too is rather important for a girl. For a guy, sex is just sex. But for a girl, sex includes foreplay and afterplay to have a better impact. Cuddle up after sex and talk to each other for a few minutes. Add in a few kisses and compliments and she’ll love you for the great guy you are. [Read: How to make a girl think of you sexually]

Just don’t finish up, turn away and fall asleep. Pillow talk after sex can bring both of you closer and make her feel appreciated and loved.

[Read: Top 10 sexual fantasies for girls that turn them on like crazy]

And now that you know what women want in bed, try to make sure your girl has a great time when she’s in bed with you. Remember to focus more on her pleasure, and you’ll end up feeling on top of the world too!

Want to keep your sex life on a high all the time? Use these 15 tips on how to satisfy a woman in bed and you’ll know what it takes to keep it exciting. By Francesca Marie

Satisfying a woman in bed isn’t an art.

All it takes is a deeper understanding of your partner and her needs.

As long as you put your partner’s sexual needs ahead of yours, and remember to keep sex fresh, your sex life will stay exciting and alive for a long time to come.

[Read: How to get a girl horny just by sitting next to her]

How to satisfy a woman in bed

You may have heard this before, but the most powerful sexual organ humans have isn’t in our underpants. It’s in our head.

More than anything else in your body, it’s your brain that plays the most important role in great sex.

If your mind is convinced that you’re having awesome sex, big chances are, every other part of your body will follow suit too.

To truly have amazing sex and satisfy your woman in bed, you need to learn to make her mind enjoy the things you do in bed.

Get that right, and she’ll surely be satisfied and more.

Emotional and sexual satisfaction

Sexual satisfaction depends a lot on emotional intimacy.

After all, two people can get together and have great sex for a while. But very soon, boredom will set in and the excitement of passionate sex will start to dwindle and fizzle in no time.

But if you know how to satisfy a girl emotionally, you’ll build a better relationship that’s emotionally stronger and make sex feel a lot more intimate and better in the long term. Read the introduction on how to please a woman emotionally and sexually to build a better emotional relationship before using these sexual tips.

How to satisfy a woman in bed in 15 ways

Men get sexually aroused extremely fast and can lose the erection really fast too. But a woman, she takes her time to get aroused, and when she does get aroused, she stays aroused for a long time.

Use these 15 tips to satisfy a woman in bed and make her want more of you, even if you’ve been in the same relationship for a very long time.

#1 Go down on her. If all else fails, this usually succeeds. If you’re having a hard time getting your woman warmed up for the act, just go down on her and spend a gentle while down there. Almost always, this would help build the momentum for a great night ahead.

#2 Take time during foreplay. Most men hurry the foreplay bit without any consideration for the woman they’re with. Just because you’re up and ready doesn’t mean your woman is ready too. Take your time before penetration, and both of you will enjoy sex a lot more. [Read: 20 easy ways to keep an erection up for longer]

#3 Remember her erogenous zones. The typical erogenous zones in a woman are several, going from the back of her neck, her ears, and all the way to her knees and her toes. But each woman has a few special sweet spots that switch the button on instantly.

Kiss and nibble the entire length of her body and make sure you remember the zones that excite her more than the others. It’ll always come in handy the next time you want to arouse her faster.

#4 Don’t roll over and sleep. Falling asleep immediately after sex is a good sign because it means you’re secure enough in the relationship to just enjoy the relaxing after-sex sensation without having to worry about awkward moments. [Read: The art of perfect romantic pillow talking]

But there’s a thin line between being secure and taking your woman for granted. Cuddle up after sex or indulge in pillow talk for a while. Or just fall asleep in each other’s arms.

#5 Your hygiene matters. Looking good for your woman makes a huge difference in the experience she has in bed. After all, a better looking partner is more of a turn on, isn’t it? But you need to remember that looking good doesn’t just mean a six pack abs.

Have a shower if you’re making love at the end of a long day, and keep all those hairy regions clean and trimmed. Smell great and feel great in bed, and your woman will definitely have a hard time keeping her hands off of you!

#6 Kiss and tell. Women have an active imagination and tend to rely on feelings more than visual appearances. If you want to turn your woman on and satisfy her in bed, arouse her mind by using the right words. Whisper sweet nothings in her ears or talk about her favorite fantasies. As long as you excite her mind with your seductive words, she’ll have an orgasm that’ll grip you hard down there. [Read: How to talk dirty with your woman and arouse her instantly]

#7 Don’t be selfish. If you want to know how to satisfy a woman in bed, this is as simple as it gets. Put your woman’s needs in bed before yours. Understand her preferences in bed, be it about the dim lighting or the right side of the bed, and make sure she’s feeling comfortable enough to enjoy having sex without any insecurities or awkwardness. [Read: How to arrange your room and make it a sex bedroom]

#8 Experiment all the time. The most boring of sexual relationships are the ones where the couples just do the missionary and don’t experiment at all, be it about positions or about dirty conversations. If you want to do more than just satisfy your woman in bed, try new things all the time. If you feel like a particular sex fantasy or a particular position is starting to get monotonous, freshen things up by trying something new.

#9 The right compliments. Women love appreciation in bed. It makes them shed their inhibitions more easily and gets them to experiment in bed sooner. When you’re naked in bed with your woman and find something fascinating about her, make sure you share the thought with your woman. She’ll feel better about herself and her new sexual confidence will definitely lead to better sex.

#10 Trigger zones and fantasies. Do you have any fantasies that make you hard as soon as you think about it? Well, girls have their own trigger fantasies too. For some girls, it’s a sexual fantasy while for others, it may be an erogenous zone.

Speak to your woman and find out what turns her on instantly. It’ll play a big part in turning her on, and at times, it can help her orgasm sooner when you can’t hold on for too long. [Read: Top 10 sexual fantasies that girls love thinking about]

#11 Play with her body.  Just because you’re inside of her doesn’t mean you should stop focusing on the rest of her. Play with her body and move your hands all over her. Massage her, stroke her and grab her all over. It’ll turn your girl on a lot more than just focusing on the missionary.

#12 Refresh sex all the time. The primary reason why sex starts to get boring is because it can get rather repetitive after a while. The typical foreplay-followed-by-missionary-position sex may be the most comfortable of all positions and it may feel intimate too, but every now and then, try something new just to bring a change into your bedroom.

Try role playing, dirty talking or a few sexy games in bed. Just when sex starts to get predictable, bring an interesting twist into it. By refreshing sex all the time, you can make each time you make love with your woman feel like a one night stand! [Read: Top 50 kinky ideas for a really sexy relationship]

#13 Bite, lick and suck. Kissing is sensual and romantic. But don’t stop there. Let her feel your passion when you bite her and tongue her body. And here’s something to remember, a good love bite in the strategic regions will still feel just as passionate to a woman even after several years of going out with each other.

#14 Be outrageous. Sex gets sexier the more wild and outrageous it feels. If you want to satisfy your woman, learn to get risqué with your actions. Do something bold now and then, and sex will feel a lot more exciting. Have sex near an open window, use blindfolds, grope each other on a dark dance floor… The wilder your thoughts and actions, the sexier the sex will be. [Read: Dirty public flashing confessions to arouse your mind]

#15 Her orgasm first. The last tip to satisfy your woman is only the most important one. The perfect orgasm is the high point of lovemaking. And if you orgasm before her, it’s almost certain that she’ll have to make do without an orgasm. Control your erection better and learn to hold on for longer, so you can satisfy your woman completely before you orgasm.

[Read: 20 tips to last really long in bed all the time]

Keeping a woman happy sexually isn’t really hard, just as long as you remember these 15 tips on how to satisfy a woman in bed. Remember these and your girl will definitely be more than just happy with your bedroom capabilities.

Want to make your sweet girlfriend feel more special and loved? Use these 20 great ways on how to make your girlfriend happy to do that, every day. By Cheryl James

As girls, it’s in our nature to be affectionate and loving.

And when we’re in a relationship with a wonderful guy, we love being treated in a special way by them.

But more often than not, a guy just doesn’t know how to treat his girlfriend in a special manner, even if he’s trying hard to please her.

[Read: 10 traits of a great boyfriend that makes all the difference]

How to make your girlfriend feel happy

Making your girlfriend feel happy and loved isn’t a complicated confusion.

In reality, it’s very simple.

You just need to make her feel special and cared for when you’re around her.

If you want your relationship to be perfect and envied by all others couples, learn to think from your girlfriend’s perspective.

When both lovers in a relationship think from the other partner’s perspective, the relationship can only get better and more loving with time.

[Read: 12 tips to be a happy couple that's envied by other couples]

25 ways to make your girlfriend feel loved and happy

A perfect relationship is never one sided. When you make the effort to please your girlfriend and make her happy, she’ll involuntarily put in her effort at making you happier in love if she truly loves you back.

So the next time you’re with your special girl, instead of holding back, give more. In mutual love, every loving act gives back more happiness to both lovers.

For starters, use these 20 tips on how to make your girlfriend happy to pamper her and please her. And I’ll tell you this, you’ll definitely be the winner in the game of love.

#1 Surprise her with memorable gifts. Make sure you never forget your girlfriend’s special occasions, however trivial they may seem to you. And every now and then, show just how much you love her by giving her a memorable gift of love, be it a bling thing or a priceless gift like a heartfelt letter of love. [Read: The complete guide to writing a beautiful and heartwarming love letter]

#2 Make her friends envy her. All of us want our relationships to be perfect, but very few of us actually work towards making it perfect. Treat your girlfriend with love and affection, and pay attention to all her needs, especially when she’s around her friends. When her friends notice how good a catch you are, her heart will swell with pride and happiness, and you’ll feel like a real smooth talker too!

#3 Get along with her friends and family. To a girl, her family and her close friends mean everything, because she shares all the intimate details of her life with them. And to a large extent, she listens to her friends and takes their opinions seriously. So make an effort to get along with her friends and treat them well. She’ll be happy to see that you’re a big hit with her loved ones.

#4 Don’t ignore her when she’s with you. Make your girlfriend feel like she’s the center of your world all the time, and especially so when she’s with you. Don’t ignore her because you’re having a fun conversation with another attractive girl or are distracted by something else. When your girlfriend is around you, it doesn’t matter who or what is around, make sure your attention is focused on your girl. [Read: 13 annoying boyfriend traits and how you can avoid them]

#5 Respect her opinions. As humans, respect plays a big part in how we feel about ourselves. When we feel disrespected by someone important to us, we feel miserable. And this holds the same effect in relationships too. Don’t dismiss your girlfriend’s opinions and ideas without listening to her, and don’t take her lightly just because *she’s a girl*. In a relationship, both partners have to learn to listen to each other and respect each other’s point of view.

#6 Ask her for help. You may be a big, fully grown man. But that shouldn’t stop you from asking your girl for help now and then. By letting your girlfriend see your vulnerable, helpless side, she’d feel closer to you because you aren’t afraid of showing your weaknesses to her.

#7 Compromise for her. Every now and then, compromise your wants for her needs. If she wants to watch a romantic movie while you want to watch something else, give in to her now and then. When she sees how you’re willing to give up something you like just to please her, it’ll only make her feel more loved and happy. [True story: A guy's unconditional love for a girl]

#8 Cuddle up with her at home. Do you end up getting turned on each time you hug your girlfriend or kiss her for a few minutes? That’s understandable. But at least once a day, hug her tight and cuddle with her while watching the telly or when both of you are lying in bed. For a girl, a few hugs and sweet kisses feel just as special as a good round of passionate sex.

#9 Be affectionate with her in public. Make your girlfriend feel special when you’re with her in public. You don’t need to eat each other’s faces off to make a point that both of you are dating.

Hold her hand, brush her hair away from her face, make her feel like you’re completely attentive to her needs, and most importantly, don’t hold yourself back from behaving in a silly manner if you can bring a smile on your girlfriend’s face. [Read: 10 public display of affection laws you need to follow]

#10 Make her laugh. Humor has a very important place in relationships. Even when both of you don’t have anything to talk about, a few funny lines or gestures can make the whole day feel like such a fun activity. [Read: How to be funny and make others love your company]

#11 Make her feel secure. If you want to make your girlfriend feel happy in the relationship, you need to focus on the one thing girls want most in a guy, his protective streak. When your girl feels secure when you’re around, and when she feels like she can depend on you for anything, she’d instinctively feel happier to be in love with you.

#12 Give her your attention. When you go out with your girlfriend, do you stay close to her and make sure she’s feeling comfortable, or do you leave her aside and catch up with your own friends?

When your girlfriend is around, always focus on her needs first before you think of yours. If you need to spend a few minutes away from her to speak to your own friends, make sure she won’t feel uneasy when you aren’t around. Whenever you’re out with your girlfriend, always pay attention to her needs before yours.

#13 Communicate. Misunderstandings arise when there is a lack of communication in a relationship. If you want to have a happy relationship with your girlfriend, learn to express your feelings clearly. And every now and then, spend a few hours talking about each other’s lives. When you spend a lot of time talking about your future together, both of you will feel more secure and loved in the relationship. [Read: What is pillow talk and how to make it better?]

#14 Compliment her. Women love compliments. It makes them feel more appreciated. If you like something about your girlfriend, let her know about it. It doesn’t matter if it’s something about her personality or about the way she dresses, if you like it, say it. [Read: 50 really cute things to say to your girlfriend]

#15 Let her know you’re lucky to have her. Did you have to woo your girl for a while before she finally accepted to date you? Always let her know that you still love her just as much as you did when both of you first started dating. And more than anything else, let her know that you have never taken her for granted and never will. If you feel lucky to date such a wonderful girl, remind her about it all the time.

#16 Be chivalrous. Chivalry is one of those big positive traits in a guy that separates the ordinary men from the gentlemen. Always be chivalrous around your girlfriend, and learn to treat her like a princess. She’ll definitely love your courteous side and all the pampering that comes with it. [Read: The code of modern chivalry for men]

#17 Involve her in your life. If you’re serious about your girlfriend and see her as a big part of your life, learn to involve her more in your daily life, be it for get-togethers or a night out with your friends. When you invite her to spend more time with you and your friends, you’re letting her know that you’re serious about her and the relationship. And emotional security always makes any girl in love a much happier girlfriend!

#18 Call her unexpectedly and sweet talk her. Love shouldn’t always be predictable, especially when it’s a happy surprise. Drop by at her place or at her office out of the blue with flowers or a small gift. Call her up when she least expects your call and remind her about how much you miss holding her in your hands right at that moment. In love, if it’s a happy feeling, share it. It makes all the difference between a happy romance and a bored one. [Read: 15 reasons why your girlfriend may be getting bored of your relationship]

#19 The little things in love. Big birthday surprises and anniversary celebrations are always memorable. But to keep a romance alive, you don’t always need those big gestures all the time. It’s the little things in love that hold a relationship together better than those big gestures. Indulge in sweet romantic gestures every now and then to please your girlfriend. It’ll definitely make her appreciate your relationship a lot more. [Read: 25 sweet romantic gestures for daily life]

#20 Make big promises and keep them. Do you promise things to your girlfriend? Do you make little assurances about planning a surprise birthday party or about the future? Make promises all the time, but make sure you fulfill them even if it takes years to do so. Nothing feels more special to a girl than to know that her boyfriend is a man of his word. It makes her feel more secure, and most importantly, it makes her feel happy to be in love with you.

[Read: 9 relationship stages all couples have to go through]

Sometimes, it’s the smallest of romantic gestures that can bring the widest of smiles. Use these 20 tips on how to make your girlfriend happy and she’ll definitely appreciate you a lot more for being such a special guy to her.

Reading a girl’s mind can’t get any easier. Understand these 23 things girls wish guys knew, and you’ll be a charmer and a better lover, all at once. By Layla Quinn

Most guys assume girls are mysterious.

And many other guys think girls are manipulative and play hard to get all the time.

But is that really true?

Well, yes, we do like it when a guy that likes us can make the effort to prove that he’s worthy.

But that doesn’t mean we toy with a man’s mind when we like them already!

[Read: 25 things that turn a girl on sexually and otherwise about a guy]

The dating game girls wish guys could understand

Even before we get to the list of things girls wish guys knew, I think guys really need to understand this.

Girls almost always take time to fall in love.

But when they do fall in love with a great guy, they fall pretty hard.

So if a girl you’re pursuing takes her time to start dating you, it doesn’t mean she’s playing hard to get *even if that’s what you believe*.

It only means she’s still evaluating you as a dating potential.

The playing hard to get part of the dating game isn’t a game at all.

It’s just the way things work.

A guy gets attracted to a girl immediately, but it takes a while for a girl to fall for the guy’s charm.

Give that sweet girl you like so much a bit of time to actually fall for you, because when she does fall, she’ll fall pretty hard and stay in love too! [Read: How to woo a girl and make her fall for you]

Well, so now that I’ve got that big thing girls want guys to know off my chest, let’s get to the rest.

23 things girls wish guys knew about girls

A girl isn’t mysterious. The way you think and the way girls think are just a wee bit different. Women are more compassionate by nature and are more forgiving. Guys, on the other hand, are more aggressive and violent, and hold on to grudges for a lot longer. [Read: 12 giveaway signs that a girl definitely likes you]

Just because men and women are different in the head doesn’t make women complicated confusions. It is pretty frustrating though, when a guy just doesn’t take the effort to understand a girl better.

To help you understand a girl and her mind, here are 23 things girls wish guys knew about girls. It’ll definitely help you understand the girls in your life better, and they’ll appreciate you for the nicer guy you’d become once you know these things too.

#1 The staring game. Girls don’t like being stared at, unless we’re reciprocating to your stare by staring back. So the next time you’re sitting at a coffee shop trying to catch a girl’s eye, look at her a couple of times. If she seems disinterested and doesn’t lock eyes with you, let her be. She’s not interested in you, and you boring through her brain with your x-ray vision won’t change her mind. [Read: 1o subtle eye contact flirting moves that always work]

#2 Staring at other girls. If you’re on a date with a girl or spending time with your girlfriend, try to avoid staring at other girls. And if you can’t help yourself, take a quick, casual peek at the girl in the next table and avoid looking at that girl again. Trying to exchange eye contact with another girl is disrespectful and insulting to your date.

When you’re with your new girlfriend, don’t flirt or compliment another girl about something you haven’t complimented your own girlfriend at some point of time before. It’ll upset her, because she’ll assume you’re more fascinated by the other girl. If a cold shoulder comes your way after that, don’t assume that your girlfriend is too complicated to understand. It’s just your big foot that’s stuck in your mouth that messed up this time. [Read: 10 biggest dating turn offs for women]

#3 The special days. Yes, we may have more special days in our lives. But that’s only because we try to make every other day feel like a special occasion that’s worth celebrating. If you can make the effort to remember our special days and plan for it in advance, we’d only fall more in love with you with every new special occasion. And don’t forget anniversaries and birthdays, that just hurts a lot more than you think.

#4 Shave encounters. We take a lot of effort to look our best for the special guys in our life, even if it takes an hour a day to look perfect. But sometimes, when we’re feeling really comfortable in love or on a lazy weekend, we could let go now and then and overlook shaving our legs or grooming the little bits of hair here and there.

Yes, hair does grow on girls too, as surprising as that may seem. So don’t make a big deal about it. Be nice to your lady, and wipe that mortified expression off your face when you see your girlfriend’s unshaven legs. And really, pulling your own pants up and comparing the length of your leg hair with her leg is so not funny!

#5 We love talking about feelings. Almost all the time, as humans, what we say isn’t always what we mean. So instead of just using our imagination to decipher harsh words, accusations and sweet words, girls like talking about it. Have a warm conversation with a girl, and it’ll definitely bring her closer to you. After all, all girls think a great conversationalist is an excellent catch.

#6 Chivalry is not dead. Many girls may not like to wait for a guy to hold the door open for them or pull a chair back for them all the time. But it’s definitely a nice feeling when a guy treats a girl chivalrously when he’s on a date with her. We find it very uncomfortable to be with a guy who doesn’t understand basic courtesy, especially when all other guys around know how to behave and treat a woman with respect. [Read: Chivalry is dead because men are lazy]

#7 Cuddling and spooning. This is just as important as sex. For a guy, penetration is sex. But for a girl, penetration is just penetration. Sex is foreplay, penetration and a bit of afterplay. Sex is an emotional connection for women. When you have sex with your woman, make love to her and spend time with her, not just while having sex, but at all other times too. [Read: How to satisfy a woman in bed and make sex more exciting]

#8 Shopping sprees. Girls love shopping. It’s like therapy and it makes most of us feel good even when we’re feeling down. So instead of behaving like a stereotypical male who pretends like he hates shopping, join us now and then. It’ll be fun, and we’d really appreciate it if you could help us pick the stuff that looks great on us.

#9 Our girl friends matter. The opinions of our friends matter, and we take them into serious consideration. So if you’re trying to impress a girl or win her over, pay attention to winning over her friends too. If you can win over her friends, you’re already half past making her fall in love with you because her friends will turn into your evangelists. [Read: 10 steps to make a girl want you and think of you sexually]

#10 Trust a girl with her hands. Girls are more dexterous and have better hand skills than men, so trust her when you need to pull a splinter out or jiggle a key. I could go as far as saying girls better drivers too *based on statistics* but hey, we won’t go there now!

#11 Don’t beef up. Girls don’t always like brawny men who can’t reach around and wipe their own ass. A bulked up hulk may awe other men but they almost always never impress women. To a girl, machismo doesn’t always mean bulky muscles.

#12 We fake it. Now and then, we fake it to make you feel better even if we’re not having the orgasmic scream of our lives. But that doesn’t mean you should take it easy in bed, and avoid trying new things in bed.

Even if we don’t always say we want something better in bed, we do drop a few signs later to let you know you could have done better. We’re not trying to puncture your ego, we’re just trying to help you get better in bed. [Read: 15 ways to turn a girl on and excite her mind]

#13 Fair and square. In a relationship, we want the same rules to be applied to both partners. If you don’t like us talking to a particular guy or don’t want us to go out on a ladies night, the same rules should apply to you too. Don’t try to control us and on the other hand, do whatever you like. It’s unfair and we’d never be happy in a relationship that’s biased. [Read: 15 subtle signs you could be a controlling boyfriend and not know it!]

#14 Funny guys. We love humor, in any way you can bring it, just as long as it doesn’t hurt us emotionally or physically. Girls are always drawn to guys who have a sense of humor. If you’re not a funny guy, memorize a few jokes. We’ll love you anyway! [Read: How to be a funny guy that girls love]

#15 Revenge. This is more of a warning than a thing girls wish guys knew, but it’s important for you to know this nevertheless. A guy may use brute force or throw a punch to get his revenge. But a woman’s mind doesn’t work that way. A girl always gets her revenge psychologically. So if you’ve pissed a girl off and she’s smiling at you, you have every reason to be afraid… very afraid!

#16 We love talking. Girls love socializing and talking to their friends for hours. And at times, a girl would also want to talk to her guy and spend a while talking about nothing in particular. So even if you aren’t into gossip or giggles, humor your girl. She’ll love the fact that you’re so understanding and cooperative.

#17 Reading your mind. A girl likes talking about the future and asking her boyfriend questions that can help her decipher her guy’s mind better. After all, it is the best way to spend a lazy weekend and get to hear each other’s opinions on compatibility and future plans. It can also help you understand your girlfriend a lot better too. [Read: 50 questions to test your relationship compatibility]

#18 We withhold sex. And that’s only because we know what hurts you most when we want to get back at you for something you’ve done. We really do want to talk to you and clear the air, but when you walk away or just laugh at us, evolution has taught us that the best way to get a man’s attention is by withholding sex. Talk to us, and understand us, and we’ll never have to resort to low blows like this.

#19 The dependable you. A girl always wants her man to be dependable and reliable. Your girlfriend may not always ask you for a favor or your help, but when she does, let her know that you’re always around for her when she needs you. It makes her feel more secure and protected, and that’ll make you feel great about yourself too.

#20 We love compliments. Girls aren’t insecure in a perfect relationship, but that doesn’t mean girls don’t like hearing compliments often. If you like something about your girl, tell her what’s on your mind. Girls absolutely love compliments, especially when it comes to appearances and romance. [Read: 50 really cute things to say to your girlfriend]

#21 Raking old issues. Girls bring up old issues during a fight, not to hit you with a low blow, but because we remember it. Women have a better memory than men, and we just can’t help it. When we’re angry with our man, we can’t help but pour out all our frustrations at once. But we’ll also give you the cutest smile while making it up after a fight!

#22 Public display of affection. A girl may behave coyly when her boyfriend puts his arms around her in public or kisses her cheek. But it definitely does bring a tingle of excitement for girls too. Public display of affection makes us feel good, just as long as you don’t make a horny face or indulge in PDA just to show off in front of another guy. [Read: 20 dirty questions to ask a girl and make her wet]

#23 Awe us with your machismo. If it’s something we can’t do, we’ll fall in love just watching you do it! A guy’s physical strength is a big turn on for girls, because evolution has hardwired a girl’s brain to awe a man’s brute strength. Win your date a big prize after pounding a high striker at a carnival game and you’ll definitely impress her and leave her blushing with delight!

[Read: How to charm any girl and flatter her into liking you]

Just understanding these 23 things that girls wish guys knew can make you a smoother man with the ladies and a big charmer in no time. And it’ll definitely make girls like you a lot more too!

Having a hard time pleasing your woman? Use these tips and relationship advice for men to communicate better and make her fall more in love with you. By Alison Ricard

If there’s one thing I know about men, it’s how competitive they are.

I’m sure you’d agree.

You want to be the best in everything there is, be it your games, your work or your love life.

And that’s one of the things I love about men and their attitude towards life.

But then again, there’s one other really bad trait of men too, and this one, I absolutely hate!

It’s a man’s attitude to give up when he feels helpless.

Now all men aren’t the same, and every circumstance is different.

But when it comes to love, these traits are highlighted beyond everything else.

[Read: The 15 manly traits of a real thoroughbred man]

Men and their attitude towards love

Now I can’t paint all men with the same brush, but this is a subliminal trait of men that crops up every now and then.

When a man’s happy in love and in a perfect relationship with a woman *the infatuation period*, the man goes all out to impress her and woo her.

But as the relationship blossoms and the woman tries to correct a few flaws of the man, or the couple have a few fights, the man starts to lose interest in the relationship.

It’s not that all guys give up on romance easily, but most guys are convinced that the false stereotype that women are naggers and men are slackers is completely true.

You may not realize this, but men and women aren’t that different really.

Both the sexes want the same things, the same special moments and the same happily ever after. [Read: 23 things girls really wish guys knew about a girl's mind]

But their approach to love and romance is different.

You want to be the perfect man, don’t you?

Don’t you want to be the best man in the whole world for your woman?

Don’t you want her to feel lucky and special for having a guy who’s as awesome as you?

Don’t you want all girls to wish their man was as wonderful as you, and envy your girlfriend for snagging such a perfect catch? [Read: How to become the perfect man using a secret role model]

Impressing your woman and keeping her happy can be the easiest thing in the world if you’re willing to keep her interests in mind. To keep your sweetheart happy, you need to think of the 80-20 rule, that 80 percent of the problems are caused by just 20 percent of the issues.

By using the relationship advice given here, you can do more than just fix any romantic struggles in your life. You can actually turn out to be an example of how a perfect guy really should be! [Read: The 80 20 rule in relationships and how to use them]

Foolproof relationship advice for men

A perfect romance, as corny as it sounds, isn’t difficult to create or hold on to. It’s the little things that matter, and that’s all you need. Use these 23 relationship tips and advice and woo your woman, and make her fall more in love with you with each passing day!

#1 Communicate. As hard as it may seem to sit down and talk about feelings now and then, it’s better than living through a relationship with hidden resentments and confusions. [Read: The guide to effective communication in a relationship]

#2 Don’t take your woman for granted. Do you take your girlfriend or wife for granted in any manner? Remember, she’s not obligated to do something for you just because you feel that way. After all, homemaking is not an exclusive woman’s job, nor is taking care of you her only priority in life.

#3 Show your appreciation. You know you love your woman. You know she’s a very important part of your life. But why do you have a hard time telling her how you feel every now and then? Learn to appreciate your woman with sweet words now and then and her blush will definitely be worth the effort! [Read: 50 really cute things to say to your girl and make her blush]

#4 Surprise her often. You do remember how often you surprised your girl while you were wooing her, don’t you? Why don’t you surprise your sweetheart anymore? Is it because you believe she’s not special anymore or is it because you believe you don’t need to woo her anymore? Or have you taken her for granted already?!

#5 Don’t make decisions for her without asking her. This is something most guys do when they’re in a committed relationship. No matter how big your financial role is in the relationship, you need to remember that you don’t own your partner and you should never make decisions on your woman’s behalf without asking her opinion.

#6 Remember the younger ‘you’. It’s easy to take your woman’s considerate nature for granted, especially if she’s sweet and caring. Constantly remind yourself about how eager-to-please you were at the beginning of the relationship and keep that feeling alive. [Read: 15 subtle signs you're a controlling boyfriend and don't even know it!]

#7 Don’t disrespect your woman by staring at other women when she’s around. If you must stare at someone for any reason, talk about that person with your woman instead of trying to sneak glances. It’s way better than ogling at someone behind her back!

#8 Be honest. But don’t be brutally honest. We’re all rather sensitive when it comes to criticisms, so learning to sugarcoat your words is always a nicer way to say a bad thing.

#9 Indulge in romantic gestures. Just because you’ve won her over doesn’t mean you should stop wooing her. Do something special frequently *and do it because you like making your girl smile*. [Read: 25 sweet romantic gestures you can use every day]

#10 Have dreams and work towards it. Women love a man who has a dream and perseveres towards it.

#11 Be the best boyfriend around. Amongst your girlfriend’s group of friends, do you think you’re the best lover material? Do you treat your woman and her friends with respect? Don’t hold yourself back when it comes to expressing love in public or indulging in a bit of cute PDA now and then.

If you can win the best-boyfriend or best-husband poll amongst your woman’s friends, your woman will definitely think you’re a catch worth holding on to! [Read: 10 tips to be a perfectly happy couple that’s envied by all]

#12 Be the sex god. A successful relationship has two important traits, beautiful romance and sizzling sexual chemistry. If your relationship fails in even one of these two aspects, the relationship can start to go downhill. So work out, look your fittest best and bring out the sex god in you. [Read: How to make married or long term sex feel like a sexy one night stand all the time!]

#13 Give her your attention. If you’re in public with your woman, don’t give someone else more attention and importance than her *especially another attractive woman*.

#14 Communication. Guys and girls don’t always communicate the same way. Learn to listen to your girl’s point of view and think from her perspective before jumping to conclusions. The most successful of relationships and marriages are the ones where both partners learn to look at things from each other’s perspectives all the time. [Read: Top 20 reasons for divorce that most couples overlook]

#15 Those big dreams. Help your woman achieve her dreams without being threatened by her success. By giving space to each other and helping each other achieve your full potentials, both of you would feel more successful and satisfied in life, which would show in your happy relationship.

#16 Don’t give in to your addictions. Don’t ever make your woman feel like she’s second best, by putting your friends or your porn addiction before her needs. If that ever does happen, you seriously need to work your priorities out before you start to take some important things for granted. [Read: How to stop watching porn and avoid the addiction]

#17 Don’t walk away from an argument. Remember, the only reason why your partner confronts you is to clear any confusion and not to insult you. Fights in a relationship don’t happen to win points, it happens because one of you is hurting inside. [Read: 10 tips to fight fair and build a stronger relationship]

#18 Protect her. As a man, one of the manly traits you’re expected to have is dependability. Be there for your woman when she needs you and let her see that no matter what kind of trouble she’s facing, you’re always there to support her and help her through.

#19 If your relationship isn’t working, you have a part to play in the failure too. Instead of blaming your partner, make an effort to better the relationship. [Read: 12 subtle signs of a loveless unhappy relationship]

#20 Respect her. Chivalry is one of the traits that all gentlemen should know, especially if your intention is to treat women around you with respect. Displaying a chivalrous attitude is the perfect way to show your respect for the women in your life. [Read: The modern code of chivalry for perfect gentlemen]

#21 Create memories and cherish them. What is life but a collection of memories? And someday, many years from now, your memories are all that will remain to help you cherish your life. Create memories every now and then, be it snaps clicked with your cell phone, movie tickets, notes of love or even small homemade video clips of together moments.

It’ll help your lover see just how important each day together means to you, and at the same time, you’ll have a lot of warm memories to look back on, which will help both of you realize just how perfect your life together really is. [Read: 20 ways to make your girlfriend feel happy all the time]

#22 Don’t cheat on her. People don’t cheat all of a sudden. It just doesn’t happen *other than a few exceptions on rare occasions*. Almost always, the urge to cheat starts slow, with your first few white lies about flirty conversations with a sexy colleague and working-late excuses. And then, you end up distancing yourself from your woman because both of you feel like there’s nothing in common anymore.

So instead of ruining a perfect romance over a few silly secrets like flirty conversations, be frank about it. Flirting with someone else is such a sexual rush only because it’s taboo and something most couples don’t talk about with each other. [Read: Why flirting with someone isn't cheating even if you're in a relationship]

You’re human and of course, it’s natural to find someone else attractive on the street or at work. By talking about your flirty conversations with your lover, she’d understand you better and feel more secure because you’re being truthful. And most importantly, once the taboo doesn’t feel so much like taboo anymore, the excitement of wanting to cheat will go away too!

#23 Tell her you’re proud of her, and mean it! You may not realize just how special and important your woman is, until you lose her. Just look around you, and visualize your life without this woman standing by you. To a woman, there’s no greater feeling than being appreciated for all the things she does for you. [Read: The 10 traits that matter to be a perfect boyfriend]

So walk right up to her, give her a hug and a kiss, and tell her how proud of her you are, and how much she means to you. You’ll then understand the importance of these relationship tips and advice!

[Read: 10 romantic ways to say 'I love you' without saying a word!]

Don’t wait for things to get bad in love before you start using these tips and relationship advice. Be a man the way he should be, and treat your woman the way she deserves to be treated, with love, respect and affection.

Are you looking for ways to spend more time together and make her feel more special? Use these 36 sweet things to do with your girlfriend to do just that! By Erica Patterson

When you’re in love, there just aren’t enough happy things to do with each other, and for each other, don’t you think?

You constantly look for ways to display your love.

And you’re always eager to please your girlfriend just to see a smile on her face.

But love is a game of stages.

[Read: The nine stages of love all of us go through]

And irrespective of whether you’re still infatuated by your girl or deeply in love with her, the easiest way to let her know you care is by displaying your affection.

If you’ve been in a relationship for a while now, the cheesy displays of love and public display of affection would probably have come down a notch or two.

And that’s completely acceptable. After all, we can’t really stay in the infatuation stage all our life, can we?

[Read: 10 ways to be a more romantic guy without being cheesy]

Sweet things to do with your girlfriend

As the relationship evolves, the guy generally stops trying too hard to please his girlfriend *now that he’s wooed her and won her over*. And this is when insecurities and confusions in love start to come out in the open.

[Read: 7 subtle signs your relationship is starting to go bad]

But if you truly love your girlfriend and want to make her feel loved and secure in the relationship, don’t stop indulging in romantic gestures.

Affectionate gestures may not really prove your love for her, but it’ll surely make her feel special and cared for.

A little more love and fun can make both your lives a lot happier and meaningful. After all, the happiest of relationships are the ones filled with romantic and playful gestures.

36 really sweet things to do with your girlfriend to make her feel loved

The sweetest things you can do for your girlfriend are the smallest and effortless ones. It’s the gestures you display when she least expects it. Use any of these 36 things to do with your girlfriend, and your relationship will become a lot happier, playful and spontaneous in no time! [Read: 25 romantic gestures you can use every day to bring a smile on her face]

#1 Give her a massage. Most guys completely underestimate just how relaxing a massage is to a girl. Just place your palms on her shoulders and her face will light up with a thankful smile! [Read: 11 tips every guy needs to know to give a perfectly sensual massage]

#2 Go out impromptu. If both of you are just relaxing at home, plan something spontaneous and take her out for ice cream or coffee. Girls love spontaneous surprises.

#3 Help her with her chores. If you’re lazing around the house, and your girlfriend’s busy slaving on her chores, get your butt off and offer to help her.

#4 Motivate her. Motivation always works twice as well if both of you do things together. If your girlfriend’s struggling to keep herself motivated to do something, join her and work towards the goal together.

Working out together is always a great way to start motivating each other, and let’s not forget how sexy and irresistible both of you would look after a few months of working out. [Read: 25 tips to motivate yourself to work out and look better]

#5 Buy a little something. Every now and then, stop on your way to meet her and pick up a small something, be it flowers, something to eat or even a silly something. It’s a great way to make her feel more loved without going out of your way to do something.

#6 A little holiday. Plan a secret romantic vacation or a weekend getaway to a place she loves or has always wanted to visit.

#7 Remember her dates. Keep the special dates in mind and make each one of them memorable, even if it’s just with a card or a flower.

#8 Take her out. Ask your girlfriend to dazzle and dress up and tell her you’re planning to take her to a candlelight dinner that night. [Read: 50 awesome date ideas to wow your girlfriend every time!]

#9 Do silly things together. The more playful you are, the happier your relationship will be. Fool around with your girlfriend by teasing her or whispering in her ear while nibbling it. Play games together, watch an entire season of a show or make a funny home video together while miming to a rock song!

#10 Make time for her. If you haven’t been able to spend enough time with her recently, cancel a couple of appointments or a few hours of male bonding time and instead, spend that time with your girlfriend doing something that both of you enjoy.

#11 Serenade her. As clichéd and corny as it sounds, it’s really romantic. And it can be really funny too, especially if you aren’t a good singer. Play the song ‘My girl’ by The Temptations in the background and sway around as you mouth the lyrics to her. She’s going to love it! [Read: 23 foolproof relationship advice all men need to know]

#12 Complete her bucket list. Sit down with her and ask her about the things she wants to do this month, year, or in her lifetime. And once she shares her thoughts, help her strike a few of her things-to-do from that list.

#13 Gift her a pet. If you think your girlfriend is into animals, gift her a pet. A pup or a kitten is perfect for someone who loves them. And if you want to gift something easier to take care of, gift her a fish bowl with two fishes and name them for her!

#14 A spa treat. Gift your girlfriend with a spa gift card or a day pass at the spa, and spend the time together at the spa.

#15 The last chip. Everyone wants the last potato chip even if they’re nice enough to decline it. When both of you are eating something together, always offer the last bite to your girlfriend. It’s a small gesture, but it’s a sacrifice that’s going to make your girlfriend fall more in love with you. [Read: 10 traits that every good boyfriend has in him]

#16 Paint a portrait. You don’t have to be an artist. If both of you are lazing together one afternoon, take a piece of paper and sketch a picture of her. Even if it’s a funny caricature, it’s something that’ll remind her of the good times even years later.

#17 Cuddle her. Cuddle her and caress her without trying to use the excuse as foreplay. Cuddling your girlfriend will release feel good chemicals that’ll make her feel more happy and loved.

#18 Keep the little things in mind. Never overlook the little things, like carrying the grocery bags for her, or holding hands while walking down a street or crossing it. Give her the better seat or let her have the better view wherever you are, at a restaurant or on a flight. [Read: 25 smart ways to keep your girlfriend happy all the time!]

#19 Surprise her. If she’s out and you have some time in your hands, surprise her by doing something for her that she was supposed to do when she gets back. It could be something as simple as doing her chores, washing the dishes, or even preparing dinner for her. After all, it’s always the little things that have the biggest impact in love.

#20 Create memories for her. Join new activities together or do something for the first time together. Snap pictures each time both of you try something new, and create a photo album for her. Within a few months, you would have created a whole book of memories that would last a lifetime. [Read: 25 really romantic ideas to make your girlfriend melt!]

#21 Be there for her. Let her see that you’re always there for her, and are willing to be the shoulder for her to lean on. Stand by her during her rough times and give her your complete support instead of ridiculing her or putting her down.

#22 Drop a note. Guys may think this is corny, but it’s still something that’ll make your girlfriend beam with happiness. Text or write a sweet message to her out of the blue. If u can’t be corny in love, then send her a link to a romantic song and tell her that the song reminds you of her. [Read: 50 really cute things to say to your girlfriend]

#23 Say ‘I love you’. Look into her eyes and tell her that you love her. You don’t need to stare hard, just look into her eyes and the magic will work.

#24 Be thoughtful. Thoughtfulness is a trait that all girls love in a guy, but it’s still something no one talks about. If she’s running late for something, help her arrange her stuff, or if her iPad’s battery is about to run out, charge it for her, or prepare a hot cup of coffee for her when she’s coming to your place to meet you after a long day at work.

#25 Protect her. Make a woman feel protected and cared for, and she’ll love you more for it. Walk her to her car or to her doorsteps after a date. Call her to make sure she’s reached her place. Let her know that you’re concerned for her, and she’s always on your mind. [Read: 12 prince charming traits all girls want in their boyfriend]

#26 While she’s sleeping. You love staring at her while she sleeps, so why not make her feel more comfortable too? Tuck her in the bed and arrange the pillows for her to make it comfortable. Or if she falls asleep on the couch, place a cushy pillow under her head and cover her with a blanket if she’s feeling cold.

#27 Kiss her in mid sentence. If your girlfriend is saying something to you, and you can’t think of anything but how cute she looks, don’t hold back. Just kiss her. You’ll love it, and she’ll think you’re really sweet too.

#28 Be a gentleman. Put your girlfriend’s needs before yours when she’s with you. It’s what a gentleman would do, be it about picking the restaurant or choosing a movie to watch that night. [Read: How to be a real man the way he really should be]

#29 Don’t disturb her just to get her attention. If you know she’s sleeping or working hard on something, don’t disturb her by getting excited or noisy just because you’re bored and looking for attention.

#30 Give up bad habits together. If your girlfriend is trying to give up a bad habit, be it smoking or excessive shopping, give her the emotional support she needs. And likewise, if there’s a bad habit of yours she’s trying to help you get rid of, help her help you.

#31 Talk about her dreams. All of us have big dreams, but very few of us have the drive and the determination to follow it. Talk about her dreams and discuss ways by which she can achieve it. Help her work on deadlines and create a list of things to do, and before she realizes it herself, you would have helped her do more than just dream. You could help her make the dream a reality. [Read: How to please your girlfriend sexually and emotionally]

#32 Be her man Friday. As a guy, you know you’re better at some things than she is. So if there are a few things you’re good at doing, like fixing her car or speeding up her laptop, do it for her. Be the guy she can always depend on to fix anything in her life because you’re so awesome!

#33 Listen to her. Sometimes, just listen to her without trying to offer advice all the time. If she’s had a bad day and wants to bitch about things that annoy her, just lend her your ear and your sympathetic voice.

#34 The important days. Birthdays and anniversaries are important, no doubt. But in all of our lives, there are days when we’re aspiring for something bigger, be it a job interview, a new project, or a new achievement. If your girlfriend is focused on an important day, help her by being there for her, supporting her, and offering your help around the house so she can focus all her attention on the task. [Read: 13 conversations every guy has to have with his girlfriend]

#35 Dinner with guy friends. If you’re going out for dinner and drinks with your guy friends and your girlfriend’s eating alone at home, order a takeaway for your girlfriend and make sure you bring something back for her. It’s a very sweet gesture, especially if your girlfriend’s feeling too bored to cook for herself *you can always take a few desserts home if she’s already had dinner*.

#36 Pillow talk together. There’s nothing more satisfying than lying in each other’s arms and talking about the good things and the good times. Pillow talk is one of the most important ingredients in a happy romance, and it’s something that’ll bring both of you a lot closer too! [Read: 8 pillow talk conversations to make your girlfriend feel closer to you]

You don’t always need to splurge on your girlfriend to make her happy and feel loved. Sometimes, all you need are the little things that take no effort at all. Just try any of these 36 things to do with your girlfriend, and you’ll see how easy it can be!

Is your girlfriend still in love with her ex? Use these 14 subtle but shocking signs to find out if your girlfriend’s still not over her ex yet! By Sophia Strutt

Do you ever wonder if your girlfriend’s still in love with her ex?

Do you catch her staring at an old picture of her ex when she thinks you aren’t looking?

It’s not always easy to decipher the thoughts that run on a girl’s mind.

They’re pretty secretive, especially when it comes to exes and residual feelings of love.

But if you ever do get a nagging thought at the back of your mind, and wonder if your girlfriend’s not over her ex yet, chances are, you’re probably right!

[Read: How to deal with your girlfriend’s annoying ex boyfriend]

Is your girlfriend still in love with her ex boyfriend?

Girls are subtle.

And you won’t always notice the signs immediately if your girl is still lost in thoughts about her ex.

Sometimes, you may just find her being distant and aloof.

Or she may want a lot of space to herself.

She may appear sad and bored when she’s with you, and even keep her distance from you now and then.

But shockingly, she may be normal or even happy around her friends!

[Read: 10 signs your girlfriend’s past relationship is holding both of you back]

And at other times, she may get really annoyed with you if you drop by unannounced, especially when she’s meeting her old friends, and that includes her ex.

Should you put up with it?

If your girlfriend’s only recently broken up with her boyfriend, it’s pretty obvious she’s still going to miss him or think of him now and then. But there’s a very thin line between missing an ex on memory lane, and missing an ex and pining over him. [Read: 15 signs you're in a rebound relationship and don't even know it!]

If you believe your girlfriend is still smitten by her ex or is having second thoughts about getting back with him, talk about it with your girlfriend. You don’t need to ask her if she still misses her ex *that would just make things weird*. And even if you do ask her something like that straight out, she’d deny it outright.

Instead, communicate with her. Tell her that you believe she’s been distant for a while, and ask her if there’s something you could do to help her because her behavior is not helping the relationship, and it’s not helping you trust her blindly because you’re confused by her recent indifference. [Read: The perfect way to get over trust issues in a relationship]

But on a personal note, if your girlfriend is stuck in a shoddy love triangle inside her head, it’s not going to end well, at least for you! [Read: Love triangles and the confusing complications it can bring]

14 subtle signs your girlfriend is not over her ex yet!

If the thought of your girlfriend wanting her ex nags you, use these 14 signs your girlfriend isn’t over her ex to decipher her thoughts. It’ll definitely help you understand her mind better.

#1 She’s distant and confused. Your girlfriend gets distant and aloof now and then, and even if you ask her what’s wrong, she tells you it’s nothing, or tells you that it’s something she has to deal with herself.

And at some point around the time you have this conversation where she tells you she’s confused, she talks about her ex highlighting something positive about him in the same sentence!

#2 She’s excited. Your girlfriend gets excited and jumpy as soon as she accidentally meets her ex or bumps into him. She can’t stop talking about him even after he says goodbye and walks away. And if you sneakily stare at her from the corner of your eye, you may even see her smiling to herself.

And if you weren’t around her when she bumps into her ex, and she tells you about it over the phone, you may notice that she’s more excited and alive than she normally is. [Read: Real reasons why girls are so fickle in love]

#3 Those good old memories. Your girlfriend talks about her ex boyfriend’s memories like they’re still fresh in her head. She remembers him fondly, and speaks of him as if he was her best friend. “That guy, gosh, he was such a dick, he would make me laugh so much!!”

Somehow, your girlfriend calling her ex a dick doesn’t feel so reassuring right now, does it, especially when she grins and loses herself in a reverie after saying something mean *in a nice way* about him?

#4 She compares all the time. Does your girlfriend ever compare you to her ex boyfriend, and show you in negative light? Of course, she may do this only when she’s pissed off with you. But yet, if your girlfriend compares you to her ex for the silliest reasons, or when you’re late or forget to do something, it only means she’s mentally evaluating who’s the better boyfriend.

But seriously, if she has no thoughts of ever dumping you and getting back with her ex, why the comparisons in the first place, right?!

#5 She’s in touch with him. Exes stay as exes for a reason. And exes never make good friends. Of course, it is definitely possible for exes to stay friends, but it’s not likely. If your girlfriend is still friends with her ex, and stays connected to him in a more than just an old friend kind of way, you do have grounds to worry. And you’re definitely allowed to go into panic mode if she chats with him over Facebook every day or texts him often. [Read: Can exes ever turn into friends after a break up?]

#6 She still remembers the events. When a relationship breaks down and the ex lovers go their separate ways, one of the first things they need to do is erase their love slates clean. But if your girlfriend still remembers *their song* and hums nostalgically, or points out every single place she and her ex used to hang out at, each time both of you pass by it, it only means she’s still hanging on to the thoughts of her ex and keeping it alive. For what? Well, you know…

#7 She gets irritated. Your girlfriend’s supposedly in a relationship with you, and supposedly, she’s happy with you. But does she get irritated or annoyed when she hears that her ex is dating some other girl? She may not tell it to your face, but if you read her expressions, she may seem distracted or angry, or she may get unnaturally quiet all of a sudden.

#8 You’re the rebound guy! Your girlfriend may be using you as a rebound guy, either to get over her ex or to make him jealous. This is something that happens frequently when two good friends starts dating each other.

You’ve been in love with her for several years, watched her being traded from one guy to another, and never had the package to ask her out. And finally, she realizes you’re such a sweet guy and starts dating you *probably because no one else asked her out in time!* And now she’s bored of you already, because you behave more like a friend than a boyfriend. [Read: 15 reasons why nice guys finish last all the time!]

#9 She loves talking about her ex. She may not talk about her ex with you all the time. But when she meets her old friends *who her ex boyfriend is still friends with*, does she ask about her ex within the first minute or two after meeting them?

If she constantly asks about her ex and what he’s been up to, or if her eyes light up and she talks excitedly about him with her friends, sorry, but she still has the hots for him!

#10 She intentionally bumps into him *accidentally*. And you know it! Has your girlfriend ever asked you to take her to a particular place even though you have other plans, and then accidentally bumped into her ex?

If your girlfriend gets really excited to go to a reunion, or if she insists that you don’t tag along with her even when you know she’d bump into her ex, it may be a sign that she’s still not over her ex and wants to catch up with him. Without you.

#11 She wants to be his friend. Your girlfriend and her ex boyfriend have broken up, and they’ve moved on too. And now, all of a sudden, she confesses to you that she wants to be friends with her ex because she’s finally over him and doesn’t think of him in that way anymore. [Read: 12 reasons why your girlfriend needs to follow the no contact rule]

#12 She loves you. And thinks of him. Your girlfriend tells you she loves you, but she also mentions that she thinks of her ex now and then. If your girlfriend ever says this to you, that’s probably because you’re being a doormat and letting her walk all over you. You’re probably a really nice guy, but the fact that she can tell you something like this just shows how easy she’s taking this relationship with you.

#13 He tries to get in touch with her. And surprisingly, she doesn’t want to be rude to him and avoid him! Instead, she pretends like she’s a cute, helpless thing who can’t break her ex’s heart and stays in touch with him. *even if that means she’d have to break your heart* [Read: 16 signs your girlfriend’s ex wants her back in his life]

#14 She’s moody. Your girlfriend gets distant from you each time she meets her ex. She smiles to herself or spends time by herself, and wants her space. She’s still in touch with her ex, and talks to him often. Think about it, an ex boyfriend who’s still single… and a girlfriend who gets moody and distant each time her ex calls… something smells fishy, don’t you think?

Is it time to break up with your girlfriend?

There’s a threshold up to which you can bear her antics and her sickeningly fond reminders of her ex. And this threshold is different for each guy. If your girlfriend pines about her ex often, or gives you any reason to doubt her, talk to her about it.

Tell her calmly that her close bond with her ex boyfriend is pushing both of you apart. And if she really wants the relationship to work out with you, she needs to get her priorities right. [Read: 25 truthful reasons why girls cheat on their boyfriends]

After all, an ex lover is called that for a reason, because it’s the past. But if she still chooses to stay *friends* with her ex, it’s pretty obvious that she’s choosing him over you.

[Read: 15 signs she's leading you on and taking you nowhere!]

Use these 14 signs your girlfriend is not over her ex to decipher the thoughts in her mind. And once you do figure out if she’s still in love with her ex, talk to her. And the conclusion to that conversation, well, that would decide the future of your relationship with her!

Bad girlfriends don’t just suck, they give relationships a bad name. Check out this list of 15 types of bad girlfriends, and make sure you avoid them! By Jake Butler

A great girlfriend can make your life feel like a walk in the clouds.

On the other hand, a bad girlfriend will surely make your life feel like hell!

Bad partners don’t just create problems in a relationship, they give love a bad name.

Every time someone has a bad relationship, they blame love for it, or they mentally convince themselves that they’d never fall in love again.

But the truth is, love doesn’t ever feel terrible. It never leaves us unhappy.

It is bad experiences, and most importantly, the people involved that leave us upset or broken.

[Read: The 20 kinds of lovers in the world and your compatibility with them]

Bad girlfriends and bad experiences

I’ve been in quite a few relationships, and if you ever find yourself stuck in a relationship where it’s just not working out, it’s easier to end it and just move on *if it’s still the early stages of the relationship*.

After all, we’re all different and even if we’re perfect by ourselves, we may not feel so perfect in the arms of someone who isn’t right for us.

Compatibility matters a lot for successful love. [Read: 50 questions for new couples to test your compatibility]

Almost always, it takes way too much effort to try and change yourself to fit the criteria of your lover’s perfect mate, and change your new lover into your idea of a perfect date.

How to know if she’ll be a bad girlfriend

You may have read all the articles and relationship tips in Lovepanky about how to be a great boyfriend, and you may even think you’ve got what it takes to be the ideal mate. [Read: 23 foolproof relationship tips for men to be the best lover you can be]

But no matter how nice, understanding and perfect you are, at times, the person you’re dating could ruin the whole experience of love for you.

It’s not their fault really. Sometimes, a few girls you date may not realize they’re doing something wrong, or worse, they may assume they’re right and you’re completely wrong!

The easiest way to know if a girl you’re on a date with is a bad girlfriend potential is by trusting your instincts. It doesn’t take more than a couple of dates to know if both of you are compatible with each other.

The first date is a great litmus test, but considering the odds that the girl you’re dating may be troubled by a bad state of mind on the very first date *probably because she had a really bad day*, you could always use the second date to see if both of you can hit it off. [Read: 15 easy but effective first date tips to charm the girl in no time]

But if you still feel uncomfortable with her on the second date, perhaps you’re better off looking for someone else.

15 types of bad girlfriends who’ll make your life hell

If you’re on a date with a girl or have started dating a girl recently, keep an eye on these 15 types of girlfriends who’ll make your life a living hell. If you see these traits in the girl, point it out at a convenient time and talk about it with her.

But if she can’t change these bad girlfriend traits, you may be setting yourself up for a frustrating relationship that’ll take you nowhere but downhill over the coming months!

#1 The extremely clingy girl. When a girl is addicted to you or loves you a lot, it’s obvious that she’d want to spend a lot of time with you. But has your girlfriend crossed the thin line separating ‘want to be with you’ and ‘can’t do anything without you’?

When a girlfriend gets too clingy, or wants you to be involved in every little thing she does, she may not realize it herself, but she’d start to suffocate you. And most importantly, she’ll stop growing as an individual, and would end up as a boring extension of you. And that’ll leave you annoyed, and leave her more confused than ever about why you’re distancing yourself from her. [Read: 13 really clingy girlfriend signs and ways to avoid it]

#2 The obsessive possessive girlfriend. Your girlfriend’s possessiveness could seem flattering at first, but if she hates it when you do anything without her, or go out anywhere with your own friends, you may start to hate that side of her for it without realizing it. And a girlfriend who’s possessive would always feel insecure each time you meet another girl, even if it’s just a friend. And before you know it, both of you would be fighting every time you go out or meet anyone.

#3 The user. There are a few girls who see you as a great guy who could introduce her to a better world. You may be the guy who’s got a lot of connections, or the guy who’s cooler than everyone else. And she may believe that being seen around you could open a lot of doors for her.

The relationship could start out perfectly, but within a few dates, you may find that she’s more eager to go out with your friends and have a nice time together than cozy up with you on a romantic date. And as time goes by, once she’s used you as a stepping stone and doesn’t need you anymore, she may even start to ignore you or pick flaws all the time. [Read: 10 signs your girlfriend's using you to get something out of you]

#4 The unapologetic girlfriend. Are you dating a girl who just can’t apologize or admit her mistake? She may apologize in jest for trivial things, but for the things that really matter, she would prefer to give you the silent treatment than accept her fault.

This is a scary kind of girl to date, because she may seem like a sweet girl who’s a lot of fun. But in reality, she may be extremely egoistic and she would break you rather than accept defeat in front of you. She believes she can never make mistakes, and she’s too proud to ever admit to a mistake. And considering the fact that giving in to each other now and then is a big and important part of a happy relationship, you’d just be walking into a trap where you’re the only one hurt and feeding her ego all the time. [Read: Why you should never make this girl your priority when you're only an option to her]

#5 The whiner. This kind of a bad girlfriend always whines. She complains and never has anything positive to add to the conversation. She talks about how bad her work is, how sad her life is, and how depressed she always is. If your girlfriend can’t ever just see the bright or happy side of anything, she’s probably too negative. And her negativity will rub off on you and you’d feel drained and tired each time you meet her.

#6 The confused girlfriend. This is the type of girlfriend who just doesn’t know what she wants. She’s always confused between choices and is almost always unsure about any decision she takes.

She even flirts with other guys constantly and probably sees you as the standby boyfriend who she calls when she’s not getting attention from anyone else. And the worst part is that she may even ditch you for another guy if she finds someone better than you. Dating this kind of a girl will leave you weak and shattered, and it’ll be a big blow to your self confidence because no matter how good you are, she’d always want something more. [Read: 15 signs she's leading you on and taking you nowhere!]

#7 The dominating and demanding girlfriend. She’s the kind of girl who full of expectations and demands all the time. She’s a control freak and always wants things done her way. She’s bossy and expects you to do as she says all the time. You may be a nice guy who cares for his girl, but for this kind of a girlfriend, that’s not enough. She loves being bossy and wants to control your life and everything in it. [Read: 20 glaring signs of a control freak]

#8 The too opinionated girlfriend. Opinions are good, and opposing opinions can even be healthy at times. But this type of a girlfriend takes it too far. She’s got her own opinions and she’s too rigid to change it no matter what you say, or even if she’s wrong. She changes her mind only when she wants to, or if her friends convince her. But no matter how hard you try, she just doesn’t trust your opinions or suggestions.

#9 The sneaky snoop. She snoops on you all the time, the very second she gets an opportunity to do so. You may be loyal and truthful, but she still sees a reason to doubt your intentions all the time. She spies on you, looks through your cell phone, and calls and interrogates your friends even if you say you were late because you had to meet a friend. She won’t trust you because she probably has trust issues, and unless you’re okay with her constant doubts and interrogations, avoid dating a girl who never trusts you. It’s not healthy for a happy relationship. [Read: 10 reasons your partner has trust issues and 10 ways to fix it for them]

#10 The no-opinions nice girl. She seems like a great girl. She doesn’t complain or oppose you in any way. But she’s just way too accommodating, no matter what you say or do. She just has no opinions for herself, and no matter how many times you ask her, she just doesn’t have anything to suggest.

You may think she’s coy and too timid, but this kind of a girlfriend is just like like a ticking time bomb. You may assume she’s okay with anything you do or anyplace you take her, but she may only be holding her opinions and thoughts back for some reason. And once she snaps out of it, she may even start cold shouldering you or giving you the silent treatment when you upset her instead of communicating her thoughts with you. [Read: 12 real reasons why couples end up drifting in a relationship]

#11 The fighter. This girl is scary when she gets angry. Her face reddens with rage and she quivers like she’s going to explode. She may even punch you on your face or make a scene when she gets angry because she’s probably too hot tempered and all she sees is red when she gets angry.

If you can tread around her hot temper, that’s good for you. But if you just want to be yourself and not cower in fear each time she gets angry, stay away from this girl.

#12 The I-make-you-insecure girlfriend. This kind of a girlfriend may be a nice girl, but she’s too flirty and too friendly for her own good. She gets really friendly with a guy, even if he asks her out. She goes on dates with other guys even though she’s dating you exclusively. And you see her flirting with some guy or the other all the time. And even when you point out that a guy she was talking to was trying to hit on her and ask her out, she pretends not to have noticed! [Read: 25 truthful reasons why girls cheat so easily on their guy]

Dating a girl like this will leave you tired and insecure, because she won’t change for you. And somehow, every guy she talks too would still believe she’s still available!

#13 The martyr girlfriend. This kind of a girlfriend resorts to emotional blackmail and manipulation to get things done her way. She may be very helpful and sweet, and may even go out of her way to be nice to you. But when she wants something, she uses emotional blackmail to twist your arm and get back at you. She may constantly use lines like “I do so much for you…” “After all I’ve done for you, can’t you do this little thing for me…?” [Read: 16 reasons why people find it so easy to take you for granted!]

#14 The parents’ pet. This girl is very close to her parents, be it her mom or her dad. And no matter what you say or how much you try to convince her of something, she can’t ever make up her mind about anything without talking to her parents about it.

She talks about everything you say with her mom or dad, and after hanging up the phone, turns around and tells you her opinion *which is almost always the opinions of her parents*. If a girl does this, it may mean she’s really close to her parents and trusts their judgment more than yours, or worse, she may believe you’re not man enough to take decent decisions yourself! [Read: 10 signs to recognize a selfish person and 5 ways to stop them from hurting you]

#15 Chronically dissatisfied girlfriend. She constantly compares your lives with others, especially when they’re doing something fun. She logs onto facebook, sees all her friends who are vacationing and whines about how unhappy she is, or just how underpaid you are. No matter what you do or where you take her, her happiness is always only momentary.

She may be happy for a few hours, but as soon as she sees a friend and her boyfriend doing something, she starts comparing her own relationship all over again. You can try your best, but this type of a girlfriend will always believe that other couples are always happier than the both of you!

[Read: 15 reasons why nice guys get taken for granted and finish last all the time]

If you’re dating a girl and see any of these 15 types of girlfriends in her, talk to her about it. And if that conversation doesn’t fix it, perhaps it’s best for you to walk away before she makes you feel miserable and broken from the inside!

Why do women fake it when they can just tell the truth? Read these 22 most common reasons why women fake an orgasm in bed to know why they do it! By Jana Snow

An orgasm is such a touchy subject.

We talk about it all the time like it’s such a trivial issue.

But yet, when it comes to the bedroom, there are so many women who don’t orgasm all the time, and end up faking it more often!

Statistics vary widely, and no one can really tell what percentage of women fake it or really experience it.

But if one thing’s almost certain, it’s the unverified assumption that all women have faked an orgasm at least once in their lifetime!

[Read: 23 secret things girls wish guys knew about girls!]

Why do women need to fake an orgasm in the first place?

Men don’t always fake it, but that doesn’t mean they have mind blowing sex each time they drop their shorts and get into bed, do they?

Ejaculation is easy for a man.

And an orgasm for a woman, on the other hand, isn’t that easy!

It probably starts when a woman isn’t really feeling the passion in bed, or isn’t really turned on while having sex.

And she looks up at her man who is probably sweating buckets, panting and heaving with all his virile strength while penetrating her, to make her orgasm. And when a woman knows she’s just not going to enjoy it anyway, it’s easier for her to just fake it instead of waiting for the elusive passion to overwhelm her and sweep her into a thigh quivering orgasm! [Read: 10 things women expect from a man in bed to feel sexy, loved and passionate]

Faking it and convincing the guy that she’s just experienced a tremor in her loins would at least make her man feel proud of himself.

After all, he’s been pounding the sheets like he’s running a tiresome marathon, and the least she can do to make him feel better is let him believe that he’s accomplished something at the end of it all!

Isn’t it easier to just communicate with each other?

Well, it is a lot easier. And women should definitely avoid lying and faking an orgasm almost all the time. If a woman is unable to experience an orgasm often, it’s always better if she communicates and lets her man know that she’s not completely satisfied in bed. After all, why stroke his ego and give him a leg-lifting, toe-curling applause for a pitiful performance that lasts a second or two over five minutes?!

It’s always better to talk to each other about it, though not necessarily as soon as you finish having sex, because that would just be hurtful. But this is definitely a good conversation to talk about a few hours after sex or the next night during pillow talk. [Read: 8 conversations that are perfect for pillow talking]

But if a woman’s experiencing at least one orgasm almost every single time she has sex with her man, and she’s just not into it one night while her guy repeatedly nudges her butt with his erection and grabs her breasts and kneads it in the hope of arousing her enough to slide his way in, there’s only so much she can do to ignore him and his one eyed snake. And perhaps, in such a circumstance, it’s easier to just fake it instead of listening to him plead and whine about it all night long! [Read: Everything a guy needs to know to please a woman sexually and emotionally]

22 common reasons why women fake an orgasm

Faking an orgasm often is never good, not for the man, and definitely not for the woman! But in case you guys are wondering, here are 22 reasons why your woman could be faking her orgasm instead of waiting for the real one.

#1 The biggest reason. It’s a fake pity orgasm. You’re not arousing her enough to bring her to climax, and she’s given up on achieving an orgasm. But your woman doesn’t want to hurt your feelings because she cares about you, and finds it easier to just fake it and end it.

#2 She’s not in the mood. You’re horny and turned on. But she’s not. And she’s having sex only because you want it. She’d probably try to warm up to the act, but if she doesn’t feel like it, she may just fake it. [Read: Sneaky ways to make a girl really horny and wet just by sitting next to her!]

#3 She knows she’s not going to orgasm. This is psychological, and she probably knows she’s going to fake it even before you penetrate her. As a guy, you may have experienced a few occasions yourself when you start having sex with your girl, and almost immediately know that you may not last through the sex. And just like that, sometimes your girl may know she’s not going to orgasm, and she just wants to be done with it. [Read: 20 tips and ideas to keep an erection up and hard for longer]

#4 She’s preoccupied. There’s something on her mind, and she’s too distracted to enjoy sex. She may make love to you, but her preoccupied mind may just distract her from having a real orgasm.

#5 She knows you’re trying hard. She’s feeling bad about it, but for some reason, she’s just not able to orgasm. And she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings or land a blow on your confidence, so she lies to you just to see you smile proudly.

#6 You’re boring! Well, let’s face it, you may be rather boring one night. And if she’s getting tired of the to-and-fro and is subduing her yawns with her palms, it may just be easier to fake it without being too mean. [Read: 30 super sexy ideas to spice up your sex life overnight]

#7 You’re waiting for her. You’re almost about to explode, and she can feel it. You move in and out of her a few times, and you hold your breath like you’re trying hard to prevent a case of premature ejaculation, before continuing again. And your woman, being the sweetheart that she is, may just fake it to save you from an awkward spurt! [Read: 15 ways to prevent premature ejaculation and last a lot longer in bed]

#8 She’s embarrassed. She’s not able to orgasm for some reason beyond her knowledge, and she feels embarrassed by it. And her embarrassment is making her feel worse and preventing her from even enjoying the sex. It’s so much easier to just fake it because she doesn’t want you to think it’s her fault.

#9 Anger issues. She’s angry with you, or is giving you the silent treatment. And you teasing her and seducing her into having sex isn’t helping, because she’ll hate you more for it. But if she doesn’t want to confront the issue or sit up talking about it, she may find it easier to just do the deed instead. [Read: How to turn her rage into passion and have angry make-up sex with her]

#10 She’s stressed out. Your woman could have had a long and tiring day, and as much as she wants to enjoy sex, she may just be too tired to enjoy it. And if she doesn’t want to upset you or make you feel bad about your performance, she may just fake it.

#11 She’s in a hurry. You’re initiating sex out of the blue, and she’s got better things to do. Perhaps, she wants to sleep, watch her favorite show or get out and do something. What’s the fastest way to wrap sex up? Yeah, fake it!

#12 The pressure to make it awesome. It’s a special day and sex is just expected to be awesome and mind blowing! It could be your anniversary or a birthday, and if she doesn’t feel great that night, she might just pretend to be completely turned on and aroused, just to make sex more memorable for you. [Read: 15 tips to satisfy a girl in bed and make sex exciting for her]

#13 She’s had her share of fun. A woman doesn’t always have to orgasm to enjoy sex. Sometimes, she may feel like she’s had her share of fun and may just want to end it without reaching for an orgasm.

#14 Boredom. She’s bored with her sex life, and the things you do just don’t excite her anymore. It’s monotonous and boring, and rather than confront it, she may just resign her mind to the fact that sex isn’t as exciting as it once was! [Read: 10 naughty and fun sex games for couples to feel horny again!]

#15 The guy takes too long. Your girl may just want to finish up because she wants to sleep or be done with it. And if you’re trying really hard to push her soft spots and make her orgasm, she may just give in and fake an orgasm just to end it and go back to sleep.

#16 Uncomfortable positions. So you’ve read about a new position that you want to try, or you’re suddenly feeling very horny while watching the television. And you push her down on a hard surface, contort her body and penetrate her. She may try to enjoy it, but if it’s too uncomfortable to experience any pleasure out of it, she may just want to end it with a fake orgasm. [Read: 15 dirty ways to have the sexiest rough sex ever!]

#17 Her sex drive’s down. Her sex drive may have taken a nosedive because of too much alcohol during the party, or a few pills that she’s been taking recently. And rather than make you feel bad for not making her orgasm, she may want to fake it and please you instead.

#18 It’s that time of the month. Most women have varying sex drives at different times of the month. Some women are more aroused easily when they’re ovulating, while a few other women feel the friskiest a day or two before their period. And at certain times of the month, they may feel too mellow to experience a real, wild orgasm no matter how hard a guy tries. [Read: The clean guide to having passionate sex when your girl's on her period]

#19 She’s never really had an orgasm! Well, there are many women out there who still don’t know what an orgasm is. They’ve had sex, and they’ve programmed their mind to squeeze their pelvis before a guy ejaculates. They just don’t know what it feels like to orgasm, and they don’t really care to fix it because they’re too used to it!

#20 It’s emotional. Girls are far more emotional than visual when it comes to experiencing sexual pleasure and orgasms. Perhaps, she just hasn’t reached that stage in the relationship where she feels comfortable enough to experience a real, knee buckling orgasm in your arms. [Read: How to connect with a woman emotionally and please her sexually]

#21 She just wants more. This isn’t a guy’s fault really. Maybe you’re just dating a girl who’s too demanding. She needs a lot of foreplay and a lot of sore sex before she actually feels an orgasm. And since she knows it, she may fake it once in a while just to make things easier for you.

#22 What did you do?! Did you do something stupid in bed like stick your finger up her butt when you know she hates it? Or did you tell her that you want to have sex with her sister while she watches while dirty talking to her? Sometimes, a girl may just fake it and end it because of something you said or did in bed because she just doesn’t want to continue having sex anymore.

[Read: 13 untold sex secrets you definitely need to know!]

The reasons why women fake an orgasm may be plenty, but they would all fall into these 22 reasons. And as long as both of you still communicate well, and the fake orgasm is just a once-in-a-while issue, it’s not something you need to be too worried about… just yet!

Are you doing something in bed that’s turning her off? Here are 12 things guys do often that makes a woman want to fake it instead of experiencing it! By Amelie Lee

Statistics vary widely, but it’s a known fact that all women don’t orgasm every single time they have sex!

And yet, most guys always behave like they’re the gods of sex.

And these guys brag about how good they are in bed, and how they’ve never slept with a girl who didn’t experience a shuddering orgasm in their arms!

Now, that’s surprising, isn’t it?

If every girl fakes it now and then, are these guys liars, or are the girls really damn good at faking it?!

Why do women fake it?

The reasons why women fake it are plenty and varied.

[Read: 22 common reasons why women fake an orgasm so often!]

But it’s not always their own fault.

More often than not, the reason behind a girl faking it isn’t her own shortcomings, but more because of the guy’s short-comings!

A guy could be selfish, or he may be too bothered about having a good time himself that he fails to focus on her or on how nice a time she’s having in bed with him.

When it comes to sex or lovemaking, women find the journey to be more satisfying than the destination.

So if you really want to please a woman in bed, stop worrying about getting her to orgasm. And just worry about what you could do right then to have a great time with her. Understand that, and that idea will transform you into a real sex god overnight.

And then, perhaps, you can brag about making every girl you take to bed orgasm like a flowing river! [Read: 10 things women want in bed to feel sexy and loved]

12 things guys do that makes girls want to fake it!

Here are 12 reasons why women choose to fake it in bed, instead of truly experiencing an orgasm. Sometimes, it really isn’t a guy’s fault. But then again, almost always, it definitely is!

#1 You’re not good at foreplay. A guy may take a few seconds to get a stiffy in his pants. But a girl is like a pot of water on a stove. She takes time to warm up, but stays hot for a long time afterwards! If you don’t arouse her enough with foreplay, either by stimulating her down there using your fingers or with the way you caress her body, chances are, she may not be aroused enough to experience a real orgasm.

#2 You don’t know what she wants in bed. This is the case with many guys. They just think they know everything about a girl’s body, and everything about what turns a girl on. But really, all girls are different and every girl has her own expectations in bed. Take cues from her, watch how she reacts to the things you do, and learn from it. Don’t be arrogant and believe you know what works for her better than she knows herself! [Read: 18 sizzling sex tips for men to make any girl crave for more!]

#3 You suck. In bed. Who can blame you here, really? You’re just not good enough, and you’re probably a lost cause. And since she loves you so much, your girl may just fake it each time just to make you feel better about yourself *while she dreams and fantasizes about a guy who can give her the orgasm she craves for someday!*

#4 You blame yourself. If you’re a guy, it’s pretty understandable that you look at an orgasm as a prize. To most guys, a girl orgasming under them is a sign of victory. Do you persistently question your woman each time she doesn’t experience an orgasm? And do you blame yourself for being bad in bed? If you do, then your girl may fake it when she’s unable to experience an orgasm just to stop you from blaming yourself. [Read: 15 ways to last really long in bed without any pills]

#5 You blame her. Do you ever accuse your girlfriend or wife when she doesn’t experience the big bang in bed? Do you snap at her or angrily say something like “why don’t you f**kin’ tell me what turns you on in bed then?!!!”

#6 You get annoyed. You may not tell it to her face, but your dismayed expression may give away your annoyance when she doesn’t experience an orgasm. And each time you appear upset, you may just make her feel bad about it, which would just lead to her faking it each time she doesn’t feel like experiencing it.

#7 Foot in the mouth. You said something that was totally inappropriate or something that just creeped her out while dirty talking in bed. And now, she’s either feeling yucky or pissed off about it! [Read: How to talk dirty and reveal your fantasies to a girl without turning her off]

#8 You make her feel ugly. This is something most girls just don’t want to acknowledge. Ever! But it’s the truth that you shouldn’t talk to her about. Do you make her feel ugly in bed, either by talking about how fat she’s got, or by staring at her with a bad expression on your face when she’s undressing? If you make a girl feel ugly, there’s a good chance she’s not going to feel comfortable in bed with you for a long time to come!

#9 You’re too big! Yes, your crowning glory that you’ve been so proud of has finally let you down when it matters most! If you’re too big for her tiny cute little mound, she may just hate your little *big* guy each time you penetrate her. And just to get you to stop sooner, she may tighten her thighs, scream a little, more out of pain, and fake a good one! [Read: Compatibility between a man and a woman's privates according to the Kama Sutra]

#10 You’re not going to finish the race. And so, she brings the finish line closer to you! If your girlfriend sees you panting, sweating or trying really hard to hold on to your ejaculation, and she knows she may not be experiencing an orgasm very soon, she may just fake it to give you the confidence boost you need and make you believe that you’ve finished the race. [Read: 20 ways to keep an erection hard and high for longer]

#11 She’s embarrassed. This is something you may experience early in a new relationship. If a girl you’re dating knows she takes a really long time to experience a good orgasm in bed, she may fake it about ten to fifteen minutes into sex just to make you believe she’s had great sex, and convince you that she’s just a normal girl who experiences normal orgasms.

#12 You’re putting a lot of pressure. Have you been talking on and on about the impending vacation sex or birthday sex or one month anniversary sex for days on end? We know you’re excited about it, but you may be stressing her out by constantly talking about it. She knows the sex is supposed to be glorious, and she’s trying hard to make it feel like the best sex yet. But somewhere in her mind, all that stress is killing her chances of experiencing an orgasm!

[Read: 15 moves to satisfy a woman in bed and make sex feel really exciting!]

Every now and then, your behavior in bed may be forcing your girl to fake it instead of waiting for it. So avoid these 12 things guys do that makes girls want to fake it, and let your woman realize that you’re not just after her orgasm, but you’re trying to enjoy the experience too!

As a man, have you ever wondered what sex in a relationship means to a woman? Read this to understand a woman’s view on sex and everything about it. By Sarah Rogers

An emotional connection, trust and friendship are absolutely essential for any meaningful and lasting relationship.

But what is the one thing that can make a loyal bond to any one person more than friendship?

Sex.

Sex is an extremely important physical and emotional element of any romantic relationship.

How a person understands and relates to sex varies from person to person.

Everyone has their own experience and value of sex, and what it represents to them in a relationship.

Thus, sex has the ability to greatly impact a couple’s relationship based on the meanings that are placed on sex.

While these meanings definitely vary from person to person, and couple to couple, there are a few common things that sex represents for a woman in a relationship.

[Read: 25 things that turn a woman on sexually and otherwise]

Based on a few personal experiences, and of course, lots of consultation with friends, I can say that sex means *at least a few of* the following things for a woman in a relationship.

What sex can mean for a woman in a relationship?

Some of the most common meanings that sex can signify for a woman in a relationship are love, attraction and passion. But it can also mean a deep trust and connection, fun and pleasure.

Sex shows a woman that you love her

When my boyfriend takes his time working his way around every nook that makes me shiver, kisses all my favorite spots, and makes sure I am fully satisfied, there is no better way of knowing that I am absolutely loved and cared for. [Read: 18 sex tips for men to make your woman crave for more!]

Sex shows a woman you are attracted to her

When you’re having regular sex in a relationship, it shows a woman you are attracted to her, and that you think she is sexy, and desirable.

In one past relationship, my ex was a dreamy Italian with the dark and handsome thing going for him, and the result was me wanting to jump his bones a lot.

But we rarely had sex. Even from the beginning, whereas I was extremely sexual, he was timid and wasn’t bothered if it only happened a few times a month.

Most of the time, a partner’s choice not to have sex stems from deeper-rooted issues. But it doesn’t matter, if you aren’t having sex with your lady, she is most likely feeling like the most unattractive woman alive.

So, when I tell you there is nothing that makes a woman doubt herself (body wise) more than being sexually rejected by a partner, I’m not kidding. [Read: 15 ways to satisfy a woman in bed and make sex really exciting for her]

Sex is passion

On the other hand, when my current boyfriend comes home from work and cannot keep his hands or mouth off me, and makes it extremely clear he just wants to be inside me as soon as possible, I feel like the sexiest person alive.

Sex is passion, and it makes a woman feel loved and beautiful if you want her as much as she wants you in your relationship.

Sex is a trusted connection between two people

The difference between a one-night-stand and sex in a relationship is that you share a deep connection with your partner, something you don’t usually find after a heavy night of drinking.

And because of such a connection, sex is something that must be shared between both partners, not taken from either one.

Let me explain myself a little further. During my relationship with my first love, who I was mad for at the time and felt an extremely real bond with, we ran into a problem.

We both wanted to have sex – a lot – and that was fine with me until about two years into our relationship when I started having some mildly serious health problems. It wasn’t an STI but it still caused major pain during sex, and left me feeling no pleasure at all.

Yet, while I clearly communicated this to my boyfriend, we continued to have sex. It wasn’t like he was forcibly making me have sex but it still didn’t feel right. I was not connected to the sex, or him.

To me, it felt like he was taking sex, and that it wasn’t something we were sharing with each other any longer. I didn’t feel our bond while we were having sex.

I never quite got over his claim on taking sex from me, and we eventually went our separate ways.

The relationship left me with a very real meaning of sex in a relationship – it must be part of a trusted connection to another person. [Read: 22 common reasons why women fake an orgasm in bed]

Sex is fun and pleasure

Of course, sex means fun and pleasure for women in a relationship.

Sex is not a chore to women. The age-old myth that women don’t like sex as much as men is complete rubbish.

Many women are extremely sexual beings that love to have fun and feel the immense gratification that comes along with amazing sex.

Fun can mean a boatload of different things, and to each their own. But fun is definitely trying sex in all different positions, places, and perhaps with different personas. Whatever your lady’s preference may be, she definitely wants to have fun with sex! [Read: 9 sexiest foreplay tips you can ever use in bed]

Pleasure is self-explanatory really. Sex for women in a relationship means pleasure. That can range from full out multiple O’s or just an awesome romp that leaves a lady feeling good and giddy.

You should find out what exactly creates the most enjoyable and pleasing sex for your lady, and make it happen, over and over!

Overall, sex is many things

So, sex does not mean just one thing to a woman in a relationship. It can mean many things, maybe even more than I have mentioned here.

But from my own experience and from chats with many women, sex comes down to represent three main things – love, a connection, and pleasure!

Sex does mean different things to different people but these values are the most basic, and what most women find sex to mean in a relationship. [Read: 15 things you can do to sexually excite a girl's mind]

Have sex that is loving, and passionate. Show your partner you are completely obsessed with their body and can barely resist them. Share sex through a trusted connection with your partner, and of course, focus on satisfying your partner and yourself. Enjoy!

No matter her age or shape, every woman deserves to be told and shown how beautiful she is. Use these 11 ways to make her feel desirable all the time! By Lianne Choo

It is a harsh world that we live in. The media is by far the biggest and baddest critic of women and you will be shocked at the impossible standards that society has set when it comes to the ideal woman.

Women are inundated with wave after wave of flawless beauty every minute of every day. From the cover of their “guilty pleasure” magazine, to billboards, music videos, and every show on television, women today are constantly reminded of their flaws.

It comes as no surprise that many women suffer from insecurities and possess low self-confidence. You may see her as the most divine being ever created, but there is a high chance that she will vehemently disagree with you.

A happy wife equals a happy life!

As the main man in her life, it is your job to reassure her that she is a beautiful temptress, even if it is just to you. You need to remind her that you adore her sex appeal and that no matter what, you will always love the way she looks.

You will be very surprised at the positive payback that you will receive once you start convincing her that she is sexy. Remember that a happy wife equals a happy life, so put some effort into it!

11 ways to make your woman feel sexy and desirable

I know a couple who have been married for the past 15 years and even after four kids, still behave like they’ve just started dating. When I asked them the secret to what seemed like an effortlessly happy marriage, it all came down to making each other feel good.

According to them, “Both partners need to be happy and one way to do this is to boost each other’s self confidence levels.” Coming from a real life everyday couple, that one sentence is perhaps the best piece of advice that you will ever receive. If you make each other feel good, it will shine through and make every aspect of your relationship bigger, bolder and better.

Whether you have been married for 20 years or only 20 minutes into your first date with the woman of your dreams, here are some tips on how to make her feel desirable and sexy. [Read: 20 easy ways to make your woman feel incredibly happy!]

#1 Compliment her

Women love being showered with compliments. Even if she is the most modest person to walk the earth, she will love the sweet things that you say about her. Be genuine and honest with your compliments and if you can, be specific as well. Instead of saying, “You are beautiful”, say something like, “You are at your most beautiful when you do not even try, like right now.”

#2 Kiss her well

Many couples in long term relationships will tell you that although they are still very much in love, kissing each other has evolved from hot and heavy make out sessions to quick smooches. No matter how long you have been with your lady love, try to keep the flames of passion alive through kisses.

Instead of quick pecks, kiss her like you cannot get enough and make it last for more than 15 seconds. Make love to her with your tongue and mouth and you will be sure to get her weak in the knees and let her see that you find her desirable. [Read: 10 moves to kiss passionately and romantically]

#3 Flirt often

Even though you already have her in your life, there is no reason why you shouldn’t dial back the flirting. Whether it is sending her a quick text saying, “I’ve been sitting here thinking naughty things about you”, or calling her up and starting with, “Hey gorgeous, I loved how you looked when I left you naked in bed this morning”, she will undoubtedly appreciate you telling her that she is a sexy and wanted woman.

#4 Dress well

If you want your woman to feel desirable, you have to make yourself desirable first. Looking sexy and suave for your lady is not that hard to do. When she sees that you made the extra effort to look good for her, she will know that you are trying to impress her. Women absolutely love that in a man.

It does not mean that you have to gel your hair up even when you are lazing around at home. Basics like showering and putting on clean clothes are good enough, but make the extra effort on date nights. The longer you have been together, the more she will appreciate it.

#5 Initiate sex

Let’s face it. It’s a new age and chastity is a thing of the past. Do not be embarrassed to act like a ravenous wild animal when it comes to initiating sex with your partner. When you are spontaneous, you are directly telling your woman that you cannot resist her and that you have to devour her right that very minute. Even if it seems inconvenient, just make it happen. She will love the thrill of doing it somewhere and sometime unplanned. [Read: Sex in a relationship and what it means to a woman]

#6 Stare often

Do not mistake this for being creepy. On the contrary, women love catching you looking at them as it lets them know that you are enjoying the view. Do not be shy to catch each other’s eyes every so often. She will take it as a compliment. Just remember not to cross the fine line between sexily checking her out like a man who is in love, and ogling at her like a pervert on heat.

#7 Be affectionate

Every woman loves public displays of affection, so indulge her every so often. Grab her by the waist and hold on to her when you are out at the park. Nuzzle her neck and spontaneously kiss her when you are in line for movie tickets. Hold her hand and caress her cheek while out shopping for groceries. Be affectionate whenever you can, even if it is just the two of you on the couch at home.

#8 Create romantic moments

Draw a hot bubble bath for her after a long day at work. Go the extra mile by lighting up candles and putting her favorite playlist on shuffle. Treat her to a back massage when she gets out of the tub and make love to her like never before. Always remember that women love being wooed. Being romantic by pampering her with the simplest things is a surefire way to let her know that you find her alluring and that you appreciate her. [Read: 36 sweetest things you can do with your woman]

#9 Tell her she’s sexy

Perhaps you are a klutz and do not know how to show your lady love that you find her irresistible. In that case, make up for it by just telling her that she is sexy and beautiful. Women have an amazing ability to smell bullshit from 10 miles away so ensure that you are genuine with your words. Look her in the eye to let her know that you truly mean it. You will be surprised at how powerful a few simple words can be to a woman.

#10 Present her with lingerie

Head to her favorite lingerie store and pick up something that you want her to wear. Whether it is a sexed up costume to play out a kinky fantasy, or crotchless panties for easy access, pick out whatever you want to see her in and present it to her. Tell her how hot and bothered you got just thinking about her in it and that you need to see her in it right away. You will be sure to thrill her with your sexed up overtures and she will know that you find her provocative. [Read: 20 things you can do to get her in the mood instantly!]

#11 Show her off

If you want your woman to feel desirable, you should shout it from the rooftops. Show her off to your friends and brag about her the next time everyone is out in a group. Brag not just about the way she looks but also about her accomplishments. Be sure not to cross the line and embarrass her. Just highlight some of the things you love about her and she will know that you find her irresistible. Who knows? She may just let you test out those crotchless panties you bought her right after!

[Read: 14 sweet and cute ways to make your woman smile all the time!]

Whether you are in a long-term relationship or embarking on something new, there is no question about how important it is to make your woman feel sexy and desirable. Use these tips and show your woman just how amazing she is, and just how much you appreciate her!

Have you ever held yourself back from making a move on a girl because you weren’t sure she liked you back? Use these 8 clear giveaways to know for sure! By Lianne Choo

As a dude, you probably know what it means to be called a “creep” or “jerk” for making a move on a girl whom you thought was into you. You may just have lousy timing or simply cannot tell when a girl is sending you flirtatious signs that beg for you to step it up a notch.

No matter how suave and experienced you are at picking up women, there is no denying that it is hard to tell if she really wants you to make a move. Every woman is different, so tactics and clues that helped you score with one woman may not work on another.

[Read: 10 things guys do that makes them appear creepy in a girl's eyes]

You may proclaim yourself to be the ultimate expert when it comes to the fairer sex, but a woman is undoubtedly a hard book to read. You may think you know what you are doing and when to do it, but come to think of it, do you really?

Can you really tell the difference between her being polite and an actual invitation for you to do more? The last thing that you want is to come on too strong and crush all hopes of ever being with her.

How to know that she wants you to make a move

A big problem that some men face is that they do not even realize when a woman is coming on to them. Unlike men, women prefer to take the subtler route. If you happen to come across a brazen woman who has no qualms about telling you that she is attracted to you and wants to take it to the next level, then good for you.

However, most of the women out there prefer dropping hints and letting you do all the work. Almost always, women like being doted on, and it’s no different when it comes to making a first move. Here are 8 of the top ways for you to tell that she is into you. If you come across one or more of the following signs, you should not have any problems scoring! [Read: 23 things girls wish guys really knew about girls!]

#1 Batting her eyelashes

Once you start noticing her fluttering her eyelashes at you ever so often, you can chalk that up as an indication that she is interested. However, hang in there and see if she exhibits other flirtatious signals before making a move. You want to make sure that she is indeed putting on the moves and that it has nothing to do with a dry contact lens.

#2 Getting comfortable

Another way to tell that she wants you to make a move is when she makes an effort to get comfortable. Once a woman settles down, you know that she is feeling great and does not plan on heading anywhere for the time being. An example is when she makes herself comfortable on the couch next to you. She may tuck her legs under her or wrap a blanket around her shoulders.

If you are out in public, she may hunker down on the barstool or seat next to you, engage you in conversation and not budge. If a woman chooses to make conversation with you in a social setting where she can have her pick of any guy she wants whilst doing anything else she feels like, you probably have it in the bag. Do not wait too long to make a move because she may just take it as a sign of disinterest on your part. [Read: 12 signs a girl really likes you when you're having a conversation with her]

#3 Touching

Women do not like making physical contact with someone whom they find disgusting, so if she touches you, even in jest, she does not find you repulsive. If she subtly touches you in the midst of conversation, she is unconsciously *or consciously* trying to get as close to you as possible. By touching you, whether it is on your arm, thigh, shoulder or back, she is sending signals to remind you that she is close by.

All she wants is to build awareness on her presence and to let you know that she is right there within touching distance. The gentle pressure of her fingertips on your arm should get you hot under the collar and raring to go, so do not be afraid to make a move. [Read: The subtle art of flirting by touch and using it to your advantage!]

#4 Brushing up

This ties in very closely with the point made above about touching. Women tend to use their bodies as a flirtation tool, so if she touches you or brushes up against you often, take it as a very good sign. If a woman brushes up against you more than twice in a short time space, you can be sure that it was not by accident. Be especially pleased if she uses her breasts to garner attention.

Whether they care to admit it, all men have a fascination with boobs and women know this. Pay attention to little hints such as her pushing her chest out, brushing her breasts against you, or pressing up against you for a hug that lasts longer than a conventional one. Once she busts out the twins, you know that she is begging for you to make a move.

#5 Eye contact

If you find her catching your eye and prolonging the act, you can be sure that she wants you to make a move. Women tend to look away from people whom they are not interested in as the last thing they want is to give creeps the wrong idea. So if you notice repeated eye contact coupled with smiling and nodding along to everything that you say, she likes you and is inviting you to do more. [Read: 10 subtle eye contact flirting moves that always work]

#6 Cleavage action

Men love boobs and women know it. They tend to use their breasts as a weapon whilst flirting and what better way than to flaunt some cleavage? However, you have to remember that women are putting on a show only for selected men. So if she sticks her chest out more around you than say, the dude who tried to chat her up a minute ago, you probably have a higher chance of scoring than him.

One way to test this theory out is to draw attention to it. Say something like, “Wow, your body looks so sexy in that dress.” If she does not act self conscious right after and refuses to readjust her top to cover up her cleavage, you have the green light to amp it up and make a move.

#7 Constant contact

A woman is hinting for you to make a move when she keeps in touch with you all the time. This includes odd hours of the day. If she replies to your 1am messages, or answers your call at 11:30pm, she is definitely interested. A woman is not going to egg you on to make a move and let you intrude on her space at weird hours if she does not want you there. [Read: How to confess your affection for a girl without ever getting rejected]

#8 Being alone with you

This applies to various settings and is a very clear sign on whether she likes you. It could be accepting a ride home with just the two of you in the car, calling you over to help her with a leaky faucet, dropping off cookies at your place, or simply being left alone at the bar with you while everyone else is dancing.

If a woman has not resisted being alone with you on more than two separate occasions, she is comfortable with you and wants you to make a move. A word of caution: do not get confused between her being friendly and her inviting you to do more. Pay attention and try to pick up at least a couple more signs from this list before making a move. [Read: How to avoid a girl's friend zone and make her desire you sexually!]

A simple way to tell that she is just not that into you is to note what she does when the two of you are alone. If she resorts to fiddling with her phone and taking phone calls, she is trying to diffuse the awkwardness of being around you solo. On the other hand, if she engages you in conversation whilst making plenty of eye contact, she likes you and is giving you the green light to take it a step further.

[Read: 25 things about a guy that make him really attractive to women]

The next time you want to approach a girl, keep an eye on these 8 giveaways to see if the girl you like wants you to make a move on her. And if you do see these signs, don’t miss the opportunity!

So you like a girl and she seems to be leading you on in all the right ways. But do you know when to back off and stop pursuing her? Use these 10 signs! By Danielle Anne Suleik

Contrary to modern and popular belief, pursuing a woman hasn’t changed much since the Stone Age. The majority of women – those who are a bit shy and reluctant to make the first move – still want men to pursue them with varying degrees of traditionalism.

Knowing when to back off when you pursue a girl

The problem with dating these days is that there are so many rituals that people have to go through before they can establish that they are in a relationship. You may think that you and that girl are technically an item, but she might not be on the same page.

Just because you made the effort to pursue a girl does not mean that you’ve got the relationship in the bag. Sometimes, a girl can’t make up her mind or is just too nice to tell you pointblank that she has no intention of going out with you anymore.

Why should you stop pursuing a girl?

Before you decide to use these signs as a guide to cut all ties with the girl you like, you have to look from her perspective first.

Why wouldn’t she want to date you if you were an amazing guy? A single article wouldn’t be enough to enumerate those issues, but here are some of the most common reasons why a girl is uninterested in you. [Read: 25 of the biggest dating deal breakers for women]

#1 You’re not her type. Sorry. That’s the truth. Just because you’re rich, nice and have an amazing body – wait, why doesn’t she like you again? All kidding aside, every person has a typical preference for the person they want to be with.

It is usually attributed to the environment that they were brought up in or exposed to. Some prefer a specific race, body type, height or even a certain level of intellect. If she’s hard to please and you don’t pass her standards, pursuing her is a moot point.

#2 You’re a rebound. Not everyone is comfortable with starting a relationship if they’re still attached to remnants of the past. The reason why they aren’t willing to go through with dating you could be because they are still not over The Ex. [Read: 14 subtle signs the girl you like isn't over her ex yet!]

#3 She’s just playing with you. Sadly, this is true for some women. The insecurities and baggage that they possess can cause collateral damage in the form of impressionable young men who just want to find a woman to settle with. A girl might string you along just for the fun of it or just because they are bored. The worst case scenario would be that they have a boyfriend who’s not too fond of her suitors. [Read: Is a girl with a boyfriend flirting with you?]

#4 She’s too nice to say no. Girls with this type of mindset should probably realize that it’s more damaging to prolong the agony of the rejection instead of just telling a guy to move on. They will allow you to court them, but will make no promises for plausible deniability’s sake. This means that they’re probably not that nice if they can make you work for something that you won’t even get. [Read: 15 signs she's just leading you on and taking you nowhere]

#5 When she says no. Stop with all the No-Means-Yes nonsense. If a girl is trying to lure you in with reverse psychology by telling you that she’s not interested, respect her verbally expressed answer. This is the reason why so many women feel harassed because their suitors think that they are just playing hard to get. If a woman wants to play mind games with you, call her bluff. She’ll probably end up pursuing you once you stop calling her.

10 signs you should give up on pursuing the girl you like

Some men find it hard to distinguish between a girl who is not interested and a girl who is just playing hard to get. She may or may not like you, but you will never know unless you really open your eyes. Use these signs to know when you should back away and stop pursuing her for good. [Read: 8 subtle cues a girl gives away when she wants you to make a move]

#1 She replies to texts, IM’s and emails with closed answers. Do not mistake this for the popular passive-aggressive “K” that means, “Keep talking because I need to feel that you’re giving me attention.” If they’re not interested, they will do everything they can to stop the conversation in its tracks.

#2 She’s always busy. You should respect a person’s priorities, especially if you are not in a relationship. If a lot is going on in a girl’s life, then she probably isn’t ready to date yet. A woman who really likes you will voluntarily shift some things on her calendar to have brunch or dinner with you.

#3 She only says “Yes” to dates that have the best freebies. So, you have front row tickets to a Coldplay concert? That guarantees you a date in three months or so when the band arrives in town. A picnic at the park, on the other hand, isn’t as impressive to this type of girl. Know the difference between sincerity and freeloading when it comes to pursuing a girl.

#4 She has a lot of hang-ups. Don’t we all? But this girl has so many hang-ups that you can’t even set foot within a three-foot radius of her without offending her. She is probably setting up a torrent of defense mechanisms just to keep you away rather than rejecting you altogether.

#5 She agrees to a date, but cancels at the last minute. You may notice that “something” always “comes up” before your date. Now, it’s understandable if the girl is absolutely unlucky when it comes to scheduling engagements. However, if this has happened more than twice, get a clue. She’s not into you.

#6 She’s always on her phone when you’re together. This is the age of the smartphones. People are ALWAYS on their phones. The same should not be applied when you’re on a date. The reason why she’s so interested in her phone when she’s with you is because she cares about it more. Unless you can post her photos on Instagram and live-Tweet your date for her, you’re pretty useless at that specific moment. [Read: 12 telltale signs she's just not that into you!]

#7 Your call goes to voicemail during her downtime more than usual. Who uses voicemail these days? The only reason why you’re getting transferred to her answering service when you know she’s not at work or out with friends is because she wants to talk to you as little as possible. How hard is it to call back, anyway?

#8 She Seen-Zones you/She doesn’t read your message for a day or more. Unless the girl you’re seeing is adamantly against technology, there is no reason why she wouldn’t be able to receive your message. She saw your message. She just doesn’t want to reply or start a conversation. [Read: 18 obvious signs you're already in a girl's friend zone]

#9 She keeps you interested up to a point. You can’t stop thinking about her because she designed your situation to end up that way. By giving you scraps of affection, she manages to keep you hanging because she’s probably keeping you as a back-up until she finds her “One True Love.”

#10 She sounds uninterested. Indifference is one of the reactions that are easy to decipher. A person who is unenthusiastic is easily recognizable. Her glassy eyes, monotone voice and general appearance of boredom are definite signs that she is not interested. She’s also probably not rejecting you because she thinks it’s too much work.

I know you put in a lot of effort in trying to get the girl you like to like you back, but you have to know when to give up. Some girls are worth the wait, but a lot of them don’t want the guys they’re not interested in to bother. [Read: 18 foolproof ways to make a great girl fall for you]

Don’t sell yourself short because there is at least one girl out there who will appreciate the attention that you give them. You should not settle for someone who doesn’t want the same things you do. That is just a big waste of your time. Wouldn’t it be sad to realize that you didn’t notice the girl who liked you because you were too busy clamoring for the attention of the one who didn’t?

[Read: 12 ridiculously obvious signs she wants you to ask her out]

These signs to know when to back off while pursuing a girl will guide you into making the right decision about your pursuit of the perfect girl. If she’s guilty of any of these, then she might not be so perfect after all. Don’t just give your time and effort to someone who doesn’t value it. Give it to someone who deserves it.

Don’t get caught with your pants down when she isn’t planning on taking hers off. Find out if she’s down to get in bed before you try any funny stuff! By Danielle Anne Suleik

Women are complicated in so many ways, but sending mixed signals is one of the most baffling things that they are capable of. A lot of men are caught unawares because women can surprise them by initiating the first move or rejecting any of his moves altogether.

It’s not their fault. Women are biologically enticing. They emit pheromones that can make any generic male specimen long for their touch. The problem is that women are not always interested in sex.

It may come off that way because they seem beguiling and seductive, but that’s just them being who they are. Not all of them are out to tease you. They are just exuding their feminine wiles because it’s natural.

If you really want to sleep with them, you need to know if they are ready and willing. If not, you’ll end up asking for something that they’re not planning on giving. It will be very disappointing – not to mention humiliating – if you did try to have sex with a woman and ended up being rejected on the spot.

Why won’t she sleep with you?

Women will refuse to sleep with you because of various reasons, including but not limited to their level of attraction to you, their interest in sex altogether, and their principles and ideals. So what are the common reasons she won’t hop into bed with you? Here are a few.

#1 She’s on her period. You saw it coming, but you didn’t expect it to be that blunt. Most women will refuse sex when they are on their period. Some may concede and allow it, but that usually applies to women who are in relationships or who just plainly enjoy period sex. [Read: The ultimate guide to period sex]

#2 She doesn’t like you. It’s the most plausible reason out there. You can’t force someone to sleep with you if they aren’t attracted to you. The date may have gone well, but you never know what a woman is thinking until you realize that you won’t be getting a second date. [Read: 12 easy ways to know for sure if a girl likes you!]

#3 She’s waiting for the right person. It could be you, but not at the moment. Some women need more time to decide whether they are ready to give up their body to you. It’s possible they could be waiting for someone they’re certain that they’re in love with.

#4 She’s saving herself for marriage. Don’t laugh at the idea just because a huge percentage of women have given up on the concept altogether. A lot of girls are still sticking to the traditional path of saving themselves for their husband. If you really want her, then respect her decision and wait and see if you’ll end up together in the future.

#5 She’s not in the mood. If you thought that was just an excuse that women concocted in an exclusive secret society while the men were out hunting… think again! Just like when a man fails to get an erection, a woman may sometimes fail to get in the mood for sex. [Read: 20 easy ways to turn her on and get her in the mood]

#6 She forgot to shave. You’d be surprised at how many women reject sex because they forgot to trim down there. Appearances have become so important these days that even the intimate act of making love has become a beauty pageant of sorts.

#7 She’s wearing granny panties. It’s either laundry day or she’s trying to control herself from jumping you on the first date. Either way, the fact that she voluntarily wore that pair means that she isn’t planning on sleeping with you, at least not tonight.

A woman wants to sleep with you if…

Whatever the reason may be, you can relax in knowing that you won’t have to second-guess yourself if you know her motives for the evening. Will she sleep with you or not? Here are the signs that she is ready to get the deed done.

#1 She touches you in intimate places. Hold up. I’m not saying that a woman will immediately grab your groin when the moment presents itself! However, a woman can show that she is interested in taking your relationship to the next level if she openly touches uncommon areas of contact like your ears, neck, thighs, your torso or your feet. The last one’s touched using her own feet, of course. [Read: How to get a girl all horny and wet just by sitting next to her!]

#2 She licks her lips over and over. It could be a provocative plea that she is voluntarily doing or it may be a reflex reaction to the thoughts that she is currently having about you. Not only is it seductive, but it’s a pretty good sign that she may be open to sleeping with you if you just ask.

#3 She keeps mentioning sex. A woman will never mention sex on her own accord unless she is willing to put it on the table. By casually mentioning it in the conversation, she may be subtly saying that she is open to having sex at some point while you’re dating. [Read: 13 lusty signs of sexual attraction to keep an eye on during your date]

#4 She wore an uncharacteristically provocative outfit on your date. Any woman has the right to wear whatever she wants. If she wants to go topless on your date because it’s her usual thing, it doesn’t immediately mean that she’s willing to sleep with you right then and there. If, however, she usually dresses conservatively then suddenly wears a tiny red dress with a plunging neckline, she is probably starting to entertain the idea of hopping into bed with you.

#5 She invites you inside her place. It’s highly possible that this is her way of saying that she’s ready to sleep with you. Women usually leave it to the guy to ask if they can come up to their place and promptly reject them if they don’t feel like sleeping with the guy. If they invited the guy themselves, it is usually an acknowledgement of their plans to finally seal the deal. Just remember that you may only get a make-out session or a glass of wine for your troubles if it pleases her.

#6 She seems a little too enthusiastic about your good-night kiss. A passionate make-out session at her doorstep could serve as your opening. Not only is she in the mood, but it seems like she is ready to eat you up before you even get through the bedroom door. Do her the courtesy of asking if she’s interested and take her to a bed where you can provide her needs privately – that is unless she wants to do it in public. [Read: 10 effortless ways to get a girl to kiss you by subtly arousing her]

#7 She seems turned on by a lot of things. If she sounds more sensual than usual, you can bet that she’s ready for an intimate night with you. You can hear the ecstasy in someone’s voice when they are turned on and can see it in the way they move. Her skin will feel really warm and her pupils will be dilated. Don’t ask to give her physical exam, but do pay attention to her the whole night. [Read: The 10 step-by-step guide to get a girl to have sex with you in no time!]

Yes, a woman may seem ready for sex; however, you should not presume that it’s a done deal even with the signs we’ve mentioned. It’s better to feel for the moment and ask when the timing is right. It’s okay if they don’t feel like it. You might have another chance in the future if you treat her right and don’t push her to rush. [Read: Is your date going to turn into a one night stand?]

Once you know that a woman is ready to have sex with you, asking her won’t seem like such a daunting task. You will feel more comfortable knowing that the chances of her agreeing will be higher once these signs become obvious.

What is it with emotionally distant guys that so many women go crazy for? Here are the 5 reasons we just can’t seem to resist their aloof appeal. By Colleen Anne Javellana

One of the many banes of a woman’s existence is when she falls in love with a man who doesn’t shower her with the attention she wants.

At first, it might seem like the perfect love story. She meets someone who does not know what it is like to “fall in love” so she will give him all the affection he needs, and everything seems happy and blissful. Or is it?

The appeal of the asshole

Many women have fallen in love or in lust with emotionally distant men. You might already be familiar with the type: men who don’t want a committed relationship or don’t believe in that thing called monogamy.

On paper, these types of men seem to be the stuff of many women’s relationship nightmares: men who would cheat at the drop of a hat, men who think emotions are just a ton of baggage to carry. Sadly, a lot of women have found themselves to be caught in the enticing trap of the “asshole effect.”

What is the asshole effect, and how appealing is it to women? Famous sitcoms, such as the recently concluded “How I Met Your Mother” have gone so far as to romanticize these types of men. Think of Barney Stinson and his never-ending quest to bed every single woman out there.

Sure, Barney might have hurt a lot of women along the way because of his many escapades, but the audience couldn’t quite shake the appeal of this certain character. At the end of the day, you might call Barney Stinson an asshole, but it is his confidence and charisma that get him the girl.

There are certain traits in the male character that appeal to women. One of these key characteristics is confidence. Women are instantly drawn to this certain male who would walk into a room, with his head held up high. This man has absolutely no insecurities and he shows it.

Intelligence also attracts women. They are drawn to men who can hold an intelligent conversation. It’s like foreplay to them. Men who could effectively talk about what appeals to a certain woman’s interests, like art or literature, for instance, is certainly using his intelligence to his advantage. Women are also attracted to men who display a strong sense of leadership, the types who can lead a group towards the right direction.

The above mentioned traits are certain characteristics of men that have nothing to do with being your typical nice guy. In fact, these characteristics are those being displayed by the assholes of the world. This is why women are so hung over “jerks” and tend to “friendzone” a lot of nice men. [Read: 18 clear signs you’ve fallen deep in a girl’s friend zone!]

Why do women fall for emotionally unavailable guys?

So why do women continue to fall for these jerks, who would ultimately break their hearts and leave them devastated? Here are five reasons why the jerks seem to win the dating game so often:

#1 A woman’s self-esteem is crucial when it comes to choosing relationships. Now it might be a rather trite saying that self-esteem is very important as one advances in life. Not all men are jerks to begin with, in fact, some of them might have experienced some form of rejection in the past, and this is a sort of retaliation to cover up whatever hurts it brought upon them. Still, there are those who were born to be jerks and their chemical makeup reeks of it.

Women who find this sort of man to be appealing may suffer from low self-esteem issues, as they feel that their relationship “couldn’t get any better than this” or “they will never find a better guy than this one.” Low self-esteem can lead to poor choices when it comes down to choosing relationships. It would leave you crying after left hanging once again. [Read: How to quit being manipulated in your relationship]

#2 Women seem to love “the chase.”  While it is true that men love the thrill of the chase, the absolute truth is that women love the chase as well. Though only a few women would admit it, they experience a real rush when they pursue what they the most.  In this case, the object of desire is the emotionally unavailable male.

Now these women aren’t the “stupid floozies” that society has perceived them to be. Rather, they are women who seem to think that getting their hands on a man like this will give them a sense of validation.

Think back to when you were in high school when you had this huge crush on an upper classman. What made you so attracted to him? The thrill of attaining the unattainable made you want that upper classman so much. After all, getting something that you know you could never have leaves this sort of impact on you, doesn’t it?

#3 Women believe that they could “change the guy.” When a woman enters into this type of relationship where the “sweet girl” falls in love with the stereotypical “bad boy,” she goes about thinking that she could “change him.”

He’s a philanderer? I will change him into the most faithful man that you have ever seen. He’s an alcoholic? I will turn him sober by the time I am through with him. Many women, especially those who find themselves to be entering serious relationships for the first time, think that they could tame the “beast within.”

Sadly, these women will come to realize that people would only change if they want to change. There is such a thing called “free will” after all. This would then leave the women who love bad boys to realize that only the guy calls the shots when it comes to changing his behavior. [Read: 10 relationship deal breakers to watch out for]

#4 Women tend to go for people who replicate the rejection that they had when they were children. Now don’t go thinking that this is some overused psychobabble! A great number of women who fall for the elusive emotionally unavailable male tend to have a lot of rejection issues during their childhood. It might have been some form of attention that they might not have received from one or both of their parents. These women might have faced rejection from their peers while growing up, as well.

Getting into a relationship with emotionally unavailable men might be a way of proving to themselves and to the world that they are not entirely unlovable, because the type that would typically reject them has finally started dating them. Sadly, this compensation for the love they didn’t get in their childhood makes them think that the guy’s emotionally distant and potentially abusive behavior is the price they need to pay.

#5 We always want what we can’t have. This goes back to the upper classman theory explained a while back. Remember the time when you were in elementary school, and your parents told you that you couldn’t have a cookie? The more your parents told you that you couldn’t have those cookies, the more you wanted it. So you decided to sneak into the kitchen and have your fill of cookies. That’s what’s going through the mind of a woman who wants that unreachable guy.

The challenge of acquiring the unattainable will always have this effect on her. The emotionally unavailable male becomes a challenge, a conquest that would ultimately make her feel validated.

[Read: 15 types of toxic relationships you should avoid]

When you think about it, it may be tempting to try and be the emotionally distant guy who gets all those girls. But in reality, you’re just bringing trouble to yourself and to your relationship. After all, won’t it be better to be the true gentleman, instead of the guy who drops women left and right without caring about a real relationship?

Behind her demure exterior and soft-spoken grace, the typical woman has tons of questions she wishes she could ask you. Find out what they are! By Danielle Anne Suleik

It’s understandable that relationships require two people to learn as much as they can about each other. It helps you get to know the person you’re seeing better, and they can learn about you as well.

After the preliminary queries like career options, goals and plans for the future, a girl still has a few questions that can’t be discussed in the initial stages of the relationship.

Some of these questions can be embarrassing, inappropriate or just plain weird. A girl can’t ask awkward questions without giving the wrong idea in some aspects like sex, hygiene and personal appearances.

It’s okay to ask these awkward questions once she and her partner have reached a higher level of trust. That way, at least the guy would be more open to her curiosity, and he might even be able to shed some light on her questions without judging her.

Some girls are confident enough to put these questions out in the open, but a lot of women are too shy or scared to express themselves. Women have bigger fears when it comes to making relationships work as opposed to men. They worry too much about what their guy might think of them. After all, they tend to put more emotional investment in asking the hard questions.

Why can’t girls ask guys awkward questions?

When women were asked what awkward questions they were thinking about asking guys, most of their queries fell into the category of relationship topics and physical appearances. Men are known to get iffy when relationship topics are thrown in the ring. Men also tend to put a high value on a woman’s appearance.

Some men feel that talking about the status of a relationship means that things are moving too quickly. If women asked the awkward questions involved in the subject, they might scare their partner away. It’s disappointing to note, but that’s the truth.

When it comes to appearances, men want to think of women as a perfect specimen. No matter what her flaws are, they hardly notice it because they like her so much. If awkward questions about appearances spring up, she might inadvertently draw attention to her perceived flaws, or she might come off as insecure.

This just justifies the fact that women are right about not asking these awkward questions, but that doesn’t mean that they aren’t thinking about it. At some point in the relationship, these questions will be discussed, and it’s okay if that happens, especially when you and your partner are very much committed to each other.

What are the awkward questions that girls want to ask guys?

To all the guys out there, the reason I’m giving you this list is to let you in on the little things that cross a girl’s mind when she’s dating you. Of course, you can’t expect her to blurt out these questions outright. But it can help if you subtly open up the topic to make her feel like it’s okay to be curious about these things. [Read: 24 worst things guys can ever say on the first date]

#1 What do you want to do in bed? Some women find it hard to know what gets their partners off. They really want to know, but they’re just too shy to ask. This is because of the idea that a woman who talks about sex is more liberated than the rest. It gives men the wrong idea and can make them judge a girl just because she’s confident enough to ask a man what he wants to do with her in bed.

#2 Do you want to try this in bed? Women have their own fetishes and turn-ons, but it’s hard to discuss it with their partner without surprising or shocking them. Women are reluctant to express their needs for fear of being judged or for fear of insulting their partner. For practicality’s sake, women should start expressing their needs because it can make their sex lives a whole lot easier and significantly better. [Read: 9 sexiest foreplay moves your girl would definitely want to try]

#3 Should I shave/wax? Just thinking of the word pubic hair makes writing this article feel awkward. What more could it do if the subject was brought up between two people in a relationship? Men have different preferences when it comes to landscaping. Some like it bare, while some want a little bit of tuft in between. Others are more outdoorsy and love a full bush. Girls have their own preferences, but it couldn’t hurt to know what their man likes. They’re just too shy to ask because there’s hardly ever a perfect time to bring it up.

#4 Do my stretch marks bother you? Apart from the other items on the endless list of flaws that women are thinking about, stretch marks are included. Although they are hardly noticeable in women who have never been pregnant or women who have never experienced a drastic change in weight, it is still something that they wonder about. Do men see it? Are they grossed out? They won’t ask for fear of it being noticed, but they do want to know if it’s a factor in terms of physical appearances.

#5 What does my vagina smell like? Strangely, women wonder if something smells funky down there. It’s easy to check using traditional methods like using a tissue, but men spend way more time down there than they do. No matter how clean you are, biology seems to have its own agenda especially when you have hormonal problems or an irregular diet. That’s why women want to check if a man is okay with the environment down there. [Read: 8 secrets to giving your girl the best oral sex orgasm]

#6 Are my legs smooth enough for you? Waxing and shaving have a few disadvantages, including stubble. We know how annoying beard burn can be, but men have complaints about bristly legs as well. The problem is that women can feel their hair growing out, but they wonder if men are bothered by it. Sometimes, women also wonder if men notice if they forgot to shave their legs.

#7 Can you see my pimple? Of course, men can see that bright, red atrocity on your forehead. It’s not an issue, unless it’s bordering on becoming a boil. Having acne can make a woman feel unhealthy or unhygienic. Women just want to know if you can see the tiny red dot on their face, because it might make you think gross thoughts about them and never call them again. They’d never ask because that just calls attention to what they’re trying to hide.

#8 Can you see my butthole? As gross as it sounds, it’s a thought that enters a lot of women’s minds during sex. There are some sexual positions where displaying her asshole’s full glory is inevitable. In line with that, she doesn’t want you to be grossed out by it, so she’s very conscious about it. She won’t ask because you might notice and pay more attention, but she’s also secretly hoping you’re not bothered by seeing it out there.

#9 When do you plan on getting married? It’s a logical question, but it’s not really something that women ask when they first start dating someone. The context of asking this question lightly without any expectations is hard to simulate. Sometimes, it’s okay to ask this conversationally, but women are reluctant to do so because it makes them seem desperate for matrimony. They still want to ask because it saves them a lot of time and trouble if their goals are not in line with their partner’s.

#10 Do you think I’m marriage material? Now, this has no bearing on the guy whatsoever. It’s not a proposal, but it will be interpreted that way. A girl just wants to know if she’s sending out the right signals. Understandably, she doesn’t want to ask this because it can put you on the hot seat.

#11 Are you really going to call me? This one hardly calls for an explanation, but to sum it up: Asking for validation never ends well. It turns men off because it makes a woman look desperate and needy. The good thing is that women know not to ask this, but it sure is hard not to dwell on it.

#12 Do you like me? Men don’t really focus on this question as much as women do. The thought passes their minds more than they do with men. Guys are just more confident about their standing when it comes to dating, as opposed to women, who tend to see mixed signals everywhere. Thus, she wants some form of validation, but she doesn’t want to ask for it outright.

A lot of the things on this list may seem awkward or strange, but it’s normal for people to have hang-ups and questions about weird little things. It’s natural for women to worry about these things, because people are programmed to be curious about other people’s views on them. [Read: 8 cues a girl gives when she wants you to make a move]

[Read: 23 things girls wish guys knew about a girl’s mind]

Knowing what women wish they could ask gives you a little insight into the things that cross her mind. They’re curious, too! So why not relieve them of their curiosity by opening up the topic whenever you feel like she wants to ask you something, but is simply too shy to do so.